(Closed) How do you feel about first looks?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How do you feel about a first look?
    So glad I did it! : (25 votes)
    21 %
    Wish I didn't do one ... : (0 votes)
    Glad I didn't do one ! : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Wish I would have done one..... : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I'm totally doing one. : (48 votes)
    40 %
    I'm not Doing one. : (31 votes)
    26 %
    I'm on the fence! : (6 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 31
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee

    TBH I think the overall outcome of the First Look is a lot more geniune and less contrived than the whole gotta suprise the other at the alter.  Naturally the moment a bride steps out and begins her walk will be amazing, but I’ve seen some bride and grooms spend months building up how suprised the other will be and how the other will cry and competing to see who cries and then neither does and the ceremony just flies by and I think the moment doesn’t really get it’s time the same way it does during a first look.

    Post # 32
    783 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015


    Future_Mrs_C25978:  I’ve always had this idea of walking down the aisle and him seeing me for the first time. He likes the idea of first look a little more than me, but we both want to see each other for the first time at the altar. Who knows, though. Maybe we’ll change our minds.

    I have to ask: what style/designer is your dress. I absolutely LOVE it!!!

    If you could PM me that would be great! I don’t seem to get notifications (or I might and I just don’t know what I’m doing on here haha)

    Post # 33
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I love first looks! I find when couples do them, they’re way less anxious afterwards and they get to share a beautiful moment together in private. I’m not a very traditional person, and the tradition of waiting till the ceremony to see eachother actually came from way back when it was customary for marriages to be arranged (and were more or less a business deal between parents). The couple didn’t see eachother till the ceremony, in fear that if they saw eachother prior than it would give the groom the opportunity to change his mind if he didn’t like what he saw. (Also where the tradition of the veil came into play, that way he didn’t see her face till the last minute). Super romantic 😉 haha. I understand people wanting the first time they see eachother to be during the ceremony, sharing a beautiful moment with the person they love in front of the people most important to them.. but I’m a more private person (which explains my 12 person wedding haha), so I love first looks. And they do help cut down photo time in between the ceremony and the reception which is always nice for everyone! 

    Here’s a little collage I just made from my first look 🙂

    Post # 34
    6524 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Future_Mrs_C25978:  I am so glad I didn’t do one. I didn’t know this was a thing until I started my wedding planning. Personally, if we had done one, it would have killed that moment of Darling Husband seeing me for the first time walking down the aisle. I would have been thinking that the entire time going down. It was such a special moment to see him so emotional and floored at how I looked and there was so much anticipation for everyone to see me, it was a wonderful experience.

    Post # 35
    257 posts
    Helper bee

    You look stunning and I have never heard of this “First Look”. If someone is of a nervous disposition I can see how this might soothe them but I don’t think I’m very keen on the idea. I think I’d feel like I’d taken him dress shopping with me haha! I have seen some cute photos on Pinterest where the Bride and Groom hold hands through a door or round a corner etc before the ceremony, but with no peeking, and even that posed too much risk for me! Ok, I will admit that I did enjoy the whole “Boom!… SHE’S HERE”!!! moment when I stepped into Church. The anticipation of it all! We had two photographers so one captured me and my Dad and the other captured the Groom, priceless photos that I wouldn’t of wanted diluted in any way. This is purely personal taste of course. We are the only people I know who had an engagement shoot. It confused people! The word “frivolous” was used, to our amusement 


    Post # 36
    612 posts
    Busy bee

    I am on the fence currently for my own wedding. My Fiance is traditional and doesn’t reeally want to, but he says he will if that’s what I want to do. I would love the first moment he sees me to be when I walk down the isle, but for scheduling reasons I think we might have to do a first look. It will be dark by the time the cermony ends and I don’t want our only couples pics to be in the dark…

    Post # 37
    4891 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I never thought about NOT doing them. I think it will definitely take the edge off, and gives us some time to ourselves with our reactions to one another before everything else starts, and more people are involved.

    Plus, like others… Fiance has anxiety and I want this day to be as easy as it can be for him. We’re having a small ceremony for a reason, and even some of his family are still concerned on how he’ll manage through it all.

    Post # 38
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Not doing one. I love the drama of the moment. The music, the emotions, and then the vows. I can see the logistics of doing one before hand, but to me, it would seem it would kill the drama of the moment. 

    Post # 39
    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I LOVED ours and I haven’t even seen our pictures yet. I was so happy to see him and it helped calm me down a LOT. We both wanted the time to be alone – and in fact, it was almost the only time we got alone that entire day. I think Darling Husband thought it would keep him from being so emotional during the ceremony but that didn’t work out the way he thought it would!

    And for everybody that thinks it will take away from the emotion of coming down the aisle – nope – the moment those doors in the church were about to open was the most overwhelming, amazing feeling. Darling Husband was surprised that he was crying like a baby when I was coming down the aisle. I was afraid I would cry, but I was grinning like a crazy person and he was down there bawling away. 

    Post # 40
    486 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We went back and forth on this for a while.  We finally settled on a first look and now I am SO excited for our private time together (it wil be just us and the photographers for our first look).  We are planning an outdoor ceremony (fingers crossed for good weather!) and even if we did wait to see each other during the ceremony, due to the nature of the outside of our venue- there would be no grand “church doors open, bride is standing there, we see each other for the first time” moment.  He would likely see me coming from a distance and I wouldn’t be able to see him yet and the moment sort of lost the “grand” feeling to me.  

    Post # 41
    41 posts

    Wow!! Beautiful pictures! You and your partner is looking sweet together. You are looking absolutely stunning in your wedding dress. Best wishes.

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