(Closed) How do you feel about guests posting photos of your wedding to social media?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t care. I think it’s fun. My Fiance and I are also planning on encouraging it. We’re having a photobooth, but with selfie sticks instead. I’m also preeetttttty sure we’re going to post a selfie right after the ceremony. A wedding is a party, if someone posts the great time they’re having to FB, it’s just a positive review for your party throwing skills, lol!

I always love seeing pictures of other people’s weddings on Facebook, too.

 

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I actually never thought about this til after my wedding day. People wer posting pictures of me in my dress and tagging me… I kind of wanted to be the first person to put it out there. I should mention we had a small wedding so a lot of people had asked me to see pics as soon as I could.

Not to mention I have certain friends who will post the most unflattering pics possible (as long as they look good in it – one friend posted pics of with my eyes fully closed lol)! I untagged myself and asked people to take them down until I had a chance to get mine up. Everyone was gracious and understanding.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would suggeat having an unplugged ceremony. You can ask people not to use cameras or phones at the ceremony or even the reception. I did this for the ceremont and it worked well. For us, it was more about people not getting in the way of the photographer. I also like asking people not to post photos of the bride and groom on social media. A wedding is a provate event, so they should respect that. 

Here is the sign we used! I got the wording from another Bee and then designed it to match our decor.

unplugged.pic_2

Post # 19
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760 posts
Busy bee

I brought just the idea of our officiant saying something about at least holding off until the end of the freaking ceremony to post pictures and my Future Mother-In-Law looked at me like I was insane to ask that. She thinks I’m trying to be too controlling, when all I want is for people to get their phones out of their faces and take in a life event in real time. Plus I really don’t want non-wedding guests to see me become man-and-wife 5 minutes after I am pronounced so. Geeze, give me like 20 minutes to be in the moment!

Post # 20
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

I honestly don’t mind it, they can share whatever pics they want, I will share profesional pics if I desire once I receive them.

Post # 21
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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weddingmaven:  It depends on the venue–a church wedding is, theologically speaking, a public event. 

OP: I’m actually really looking forward to seeing what memories my friends captured the next day. I trust them all to not be too distracted, post good shots, etc. I understand the anxiety beforehand, but I think that in the moment I probably won’t even notice if people snap a quick photo with their phones. 

As a guest, I’d abide by whatever the bride and groom asked–but the “unplugged” thing rubs me the wrong way for some reason. 

Post # 23
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3238 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I went to an “unplugged” wedding 2 weeks ago. The minister made an announcement prior to the ceremony and there were still at least 3-5 people taking pictures constantly with both a DSLR and their iphones. You simply can’t control what people do and trying to micromanage adults feels rude, IMO. I don’t take pictures at weddings anyway, but when I heard the announcement to keep the phones away I rolled my eyes and thought it was presumptious. We’re not in school. Anyway, point is people will do what they want to do and you can’t stop them. You can keep them from tagging you on FB though. 

Post # 25
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185 posts
Blushing bee

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stephncollins:  this selfie stick sounds interesting… how is it working?

Post # 26
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Busy bee

I didn’t care- I liked seeing all the photos that everyone took. I think a church ceremony is a bit different- I think people should refrain from using phones in a church, but other than that it’s all good by me.

As a wedding guest I take photos of myself with other guests who may be family or friends that I haven’t seen in awhile, it’s not always about posting pictures of the bride and groom. Social Media is a part of a world, if you choose to not embrace it that’s fine, but you can’t control what others do.

Post # 28
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Last year I went to so many weddings. I took tons of pictures of all of them. But I talked to each bride about if I could post them later in the week. Or to send the pictures via cloud. That worked out well for them.

I am going to ask all my guest to use one of the wedding apps for pictures a video. So we can decided on what we want to do with them. Next, I don’t want to spend all the time saving pictures off someone’s FB page. 

Post # 29
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436 posts
Helper bee

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KimmyP:  It will probably annoy me if/when people post pictures before I get to see any myself. I figure it’s inevitable though, so I’m gonna set my privacy settings to where nobody but me can see pics that I’m tagged in. That way I can review them before they’re posted. People have no problem posting blurry, crappy pics as though the pics are the best in the world and have to be shared or else. Blurry, crappy, grainy cell phone pictures are are one of my biggest pet peeves, so I don’t want the first images of my wedding to go out to the world looking like a mess.

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