- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Wedding photog here and believe me, I love unplugged wedding ceremonies, but even with all the signs and announcements in the world, some people choose to be disrespectful. You can do the following things to help make it better:
1) Have minister announce, and print a blurb in your program, asking for ceremony to be unplugged
2) Work with your coordinator that you would not be seen by any guests prior to ceremony
3) Change your FB settings so that you have to approve any tags on your timeline if people tag you
4) Ask nicely on your wedding website that people not post photos of the 2 of you – they can feel free to post photos of themselves on FB. Most guests I’ve found just want validation for how good THEY look.
But beyond that, unless you’re a celebrity for whom the privacy is more understandable (though also often violated), that’s about it =(
Honestly, unless you are having a super small wedding, I think it will be hard to ensure no one posts photos to social media. Personally, if I went to a wedding where they asked no one to post any photos at all, I would find it a bit presumptuous on the bride and groom’s part (I know I’m going a bit against the grain here). Remember, you can always un-tag yourself in photos and/or hide them from your timeline so anyone looking at your profile can’t see them. You can also change your settings to where you have to approve anything before it gets posted to your timeline.
The only thing I would mind is if someone posted photos of me before my Fiance sees me, but that won’t happen because the only people seeing me will be my bridesmaids and mom.
It’s pretty ENTITLED to go to a private event paid for and hosted by another person and to then post pictures of that event on-line, even if the host isn’t tagged.
What happened to respecting other peoples’ rights to privacy?????
I realize you can work with your privacy settings on facebook, but also why should photos of my intimate moments be put on display to HER random 500 friends (some of which are my aquaintances as well). I guess my point is the photos may be taken with their phone but it’s not their moment to be sharing.
Like I say, we don’t care about photos after the ceremony, we will probaby have the Officiant say something about an uplugged ceremony and leave it at that 🙂 I realize that I can’t control what anyone does, we’ll just ask politely and if they don’t listen, I won’t be very happy with that person, but OH WELL.
Anyway, if your crowd is anything like mine, they won’t post photos if you ask them not to. I hope that your friends are respectful enough to follow your wishes.
The fact that one can untag themselves & hide things from their own timeline is beside the point.
I can’t for the life of me understand why a guest wouldn’t honor the bride & grooms request to keep their private event private. That sure makes one lousy & disrespectful guest. Guests like these need to get their own life to post to social media, they seriously need to get a grip.
Just curious, you said you’d only have an issue with photos if someone posted photos before your Fiance sees you. What if your mom or bridesmaid posted photos then? They are guests afterall and maybe they find it presumptous of you to ask them not to post photos. So I guess that would be fine?
Why do you not just change your social media security so you have to approve all tagged images before they appear on your wall ? I have had this set up for years (mainly to avoid bad prom pics at the time!) its not that difficult. I personally think in the ceremony its fine to ask for no photos, but I must admit I have never been to a wedding where guests have had to ask to put images on FB/Twitter etc. It might be your event but you can’t expect people to not take and share images, like it or not.
Edit* also every wedding I have been to this summer (5 so far) every bride has hated her photographer images but loved the guest pictures! the photographer pictures were lovely howevrer they didn’t like them 🙁
For the part about my bridesmaids, I’m definitely not going to ask them not to post any pictures while we’re getting ready. I just know that they won’t because I’ve been in weddings with them before and it’s never been an issue. If for some reason they did post them, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. They can post as many as they want as long as I don’t have my dress on yet, and if I did have my dress on and they posted one, it still wouldn’t be the same as my Fiance seeing me live and in person.
I think part of my issue with unplugged weddings is that is almost like a foreign language to me. I’ve never even heard of that concept before the Bee. Every wedding I’ve ever gone to usually advertises their wedding hashtag starting at the rehearsal dinner because they want photos posted. So an unplugged wedding is something I just don’t really get 🙂
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