(Closed) How do you feel about guests posting photos of your wedding to social media?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Helper bee

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KimmyP:  I’m absolutely with you on this!! We also aren’t entirely comfortable being in front of our 80+ guests, and we have kept any announcement of our engagement off social media. I do NOT like seeing those play by plays on Facebook- how rude! I invited 80 guests, not my guests and their Facebook friends! 

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Helper bee

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Annonnie89:  
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lim3:  yes and yes. Agree with your posts here, thank you.

You can untag yourself or set privacy so it doesn’t show on your timeline, but that doesn’t hide the picture. And when a guest posts on Facebook, literally hundreds of other people, who were not invited, can see that picture. 

I don’t think it’s rude or demanding to ask adults to do or don’t do something at your wedding- which is a private event. There are people who are totally into our selfie culture, and people who totally aren’t. 

I’m a very private person on Facebook. My profile picture is a work of art, not a picture of me. I rarely post pictures of myself, never post pictures of my breakfast, and only occasionally post a status when I need some advice or help from a large group of people at once. So I think it’s in my right to not want any pictures of my wedding on Facebook. 

I appreciate those couples that use hashtags and Instagram for their wedding and lives (it can be fun!), but that’s not our lives. We hope people will respect that at our wedding.

We announced our engagement to our friends and family in person. It felt great to get the personal, real life excitement, rather than getting hundreds of meaningless (to us, maybe not to you) “likes” on Facebook. It’s also an issue of making (or not making) human connections. When people are holding their cell phones and cameras up to get the perfect shot for social media, they are missing the intimacy and meaning of the ceremony in real time, as it happens. Our society today is about living our lives through screens- I’m totally guilty of this myself. When I don’t have my smart phone with me, I feel lost, naked. To actually sit down and have a conversation with someone without checking the little screen in my pocket, feels so good!! I want our guests to enjoy our ceremony and live in the moment! I want them to make connections with real people, rather than with the people behind their screens on social media. This doesn’t apply to just my wedding, I want to wean myself off social media and technology in my life overall, because I am feeling lost in this technological world and not making as many real life connections as I used to. 

Anyway, I should stop typing and go enjoy some quality in person time with my family! 😛 thanks for posting, OP! I’ve been thinking about this a lot since our wedding is also coming up. 

 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

We’re having an unplugged wedding – no phones or cameras during ceremony and no images of us posted to social media. If people take pics of themselves at the reception I don’t mind so much. I’d like people to try to be in the moment more than anything – our phone obsessed culture is so unhealthy (and I’m just as bad as the next person, although I’m not a big sharer on social media). Our cause is helped by the fact there is no phone reception at our location hahahaha

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