(Closed) how do you feel about guests wearing white dresses to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: would you be sorta annoyed/upset if a guest wore a white dress to your wedding? be honest

    yes id be upset - its kinda rude

    no i wouldnt care

    im not sure - it really depends on the dress they wore

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think it’d be a little weird but I wouldn’t let it bother me…they’re the only one who would look bad! 

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t do it personally, but I really wouldn’t care if someone wore white to mine. They won’t upstage me just because of the colour of their dress.  I did have someone ask me what colour they should wear, which I thought was a little weird since they aren’t in the wedding party. 

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I could care less. In my father’s culture people wear cream and white to weddings. It is actually considered rude to were purple,black,red because they are mourning colors. I grew up going to weddings with a lot of guest wearing white so I’m desensitize too it. Plus I dislike white anyways so they free to go for it.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @nearlymarriedlass:  Um, long white dress at someone else’s wedding? Just not done. Rude.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    A cocktail dress wouldn’t bother me. But a long white dress would piss me off. It’s just rude.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    @Mrscdnnavywife:  I’ve asked friends that before so I could make sure I didn’t wear their wedding colours by mistake. 🙂

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ve said it here before on WBee, the main reason is photographic…

    One’s eye will naturally go towards WHITE and the lightest colours (hence why the rule really isn’t JUST White but also Off-White, Ivory, Cream, and yes in some instances Champagne)

    IF one happens to have pics done and someone else is wearing a light colour (even if the pic is in colour) the eye will be drawn in two directions (out of balance).

    Wedding Pics for the most part are very symetrical… Bride & Groom in the centre, others around them.  So the pic looks odd, if someone else is “stealing the spot-light”

    There are like a zillion other colours in the rainbow… I truly don’t see WHY someone can’t pick another colour … the brighter & cheerier the better !!

     

    Post # 39
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Only acceptable if its an all-white wedding. Its tradition and if they do it, it is purposeful and rude.

    Post # 40
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @nearlymarriedlass: Oh yes, I do mind. I would never wear it to someone else’s wedding, too. This acquaintance of ours that we see at a few weddings always, always wear ivory, white, or a light pink that appears offwhite in pics. I hope no one brings her as a date to our wedding.

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    @This Time Round: I agree.

     

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Unless their dress resembled a wedding dress I wouldn’t care. I might be a little annoyed if their entire outfit was white(especially long and only white), but if it was white with a pattern or with a colored cardi etc, no issues!

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My younger sisters friend who I had never met came to my wedding in a long white, lace dress! I also wore a long ivory lace dress.

    you know what….it was hilarious. everyone was pointing. and staring at her. Several people came up to me and said ‘Can you believe her?!’ And was I upset? Not really! I thought she looked like a total idiot! It didnt ruin my day in the least.

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would not care in the slightest. I don’t think it’s disrespectful, either. A bride does not have the monopoly on a color.

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I honestly wouldn’t care. I can honestly say aside from the BM’s, GM’s, my mother and father and my hubby I could not tell you what anyone else wore at my wedding. And the only reason I know what they wore was because I either bought it or was there when they were bought.

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee

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    @jazzy14:  “I would never wear a white dress to someone else’s wedding, and I would be annoyed if someone wore one to my wedding! Clearly it would be obvious I was the bride, but there are tons of other colors someone could wear, why do they need to choose white?

    +1.

    Post # 46
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t even know why a wedding guest would do this, unless it’s a deliberate choice. As others have said, there is a rainbow of colours to choose from, so why would you push the envelope and and wear white? I’m perplexed by why anyone would do that. As a bride, I don’t think I would be enraged or anything, but I’d be pretty confused.

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