(Closed) how do you feel about guests wearing white dresses to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: would you be sorta annoyed/upset if a guest wore a white dress to your wedding? be honest

    yes id be upset - its kinda rude

    no i wouldnt care

    im not sure - it really depends on the dress they wore

  • Post # 62
    7650 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I guess a short white sundress wouldn’t bother me but a long one would definitely bother me. I was at a wedding where a guest wore a long white flowy dress and everytime she walked past I looked quick because I thought it was the bride. To make matters worse (at least in my mind) she was a friend of the grooms plus one so the bride didn’t even know her. Maybe this makes me a bit of a bride-zilla but if someone who I didn’t even know showed up with a long white dress to my wedding I would be pretty peeved.

    Post # 64
    732 posts
    Busy bee

    I honestly don’t care. I have enough confidence in myself that I know no one is going to look better than me on my day, whether they are trying to or not.

    Post # 65
    145 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Personally, I could care less if people wear white to my wedding. I have avoided wearing it to others weddings because I have heard that it is offensive to some; but as prev. posters mentioned, being a bride does not give one sole ownership of a color. Besides that, pretty sure there will be no mistaking the bride… I really think its silly that others “can’t wear white” to a wedding. But, thats just me. And as for how it looks in pics; pretty sure I’ll be glad to have pics with people I love on that special day, regardless of if their dress looked white too. My Future Mother-In-Law has actually looked at some off white/cream colored dresses. They are beautiful and I encouraged her to buy one of them if she liked them…. And If someone else shows up in a big poofy ball gown, I think I may find that rather amusing, and giggle with Fiance at how silly that would be.Tongue Out

    Post # 66
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @nearlymarriedlass:  While I personally wouldn’t do it, I wouldn’t be outraged if someone did it. Nobody is going to mistake that person for the bride, so it’s not the end of the world.

    Post # 67
    1132 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t care what colour people wear. Wear what you like. It’s just a dress.

    Post # 68
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I honestly don’t care at all if someone wore white to my wedding. There’s only one bride and everyone knows who she is, so how would someone wearing white steal her thunder? I think it’s something that too many people get overworked-up about. I’d rather focus my attention on whether my guests are having a good time. 

    Post # 69
    621 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @nearlymarriedlass:  I didnt think it would bother me until someone actually wore a white dress to my wedding! It was tea-length (hit mid calf) and was flowy and had some sparkle. It was my dear friend from childhood who I have been close with pretty much my whole life. I doubt she knew the rule, but there were tons of pictures of her and me and my family, her family, group photos etc., and we stood right next to eachother (I have no clue why.) You truly cant tell where her dress ends and mine begins. At the wedding I wasn’t annoyed but when I got the pictures back I sure was. Especially the ones from the waist up; we look almost the same.


    Post # 71
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I wouldn’t go as far as saying that I will be upset – I say “will be” because there is always at least one of “those girls” who wear white.  I will certainly notice, I will judge, and if you are somebody I am well aquainted with I will forever keep it noted in the back of my mind that you wore white to my wedding and completely disregarded ettiquet and my feelings, lol. 

    I won’t be “upset” though.

    Post # 72
    3336 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I would kill them.


    No, no, okay, I wouldn’t literally kill them.  But I would probably have them thrown out.  And I’d never speak to them again.


    Okay okay, I’m being a bit of a bridezilla.  I don’t think anyone would do this to me though…they know better.  LOL!  I find it completely unacceptable.


    Post # 74
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wouldn’t dream of wearing white to a wedding as a guest! I’d also use the invitation colours as a guide for what the colour scheme is and stay away from a formal looking dress in that colour too to avoid looking like a bridesmaid. If they’re teens or children then no problem. if someone turned up in white, but with coloured accessories or a pattern to it or something, I’d not be too impressed but let it slide. If someone turned up in a long white dress I would be seriously pissed. Why would you do that? The bride’s trying to look her absolute best on the day and then you turn up trying to look your best in your white dress too?! I’m guessing me on my wedding day would be in too good a mood to do this, but normally I’d actually get a Bridesmaid or Best Man to quietly ask her if she has anything else with her she can change into (most guests are spending the night). I’m a pretty laid back person…honest…but that’s a serious no no


    Post # 75
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    @nearlymarriedlass:  true story – I just saw your recap wedding post (you were stunning btw! And dont get me started on your hunky husband!! Beautiful couple!!). I saw a pic of the girl in cream and I immediately thought of this thread!! I didn’t realize you were the one who started it!? Oh the irony!! Def there was no question who’s wedding it was, but I think it was tasteless  and inconsiderate for her to wear that. 

    Post # 76
    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I wouldn’t care, especially since I won’t be wearing white.  I’m pretty sure my friends and family will know who the bride is 😉

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