(Closed) How do you feel about handmade gifts?

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 31
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I made a cross stitch for my nephew when he was born personalised for him (took all winter to make!) and I am currently doing the same for my brand new niece! I know that it might only be on the wall for a few years in the nursery but it gives me joy knowing I am making something just for them.

Post # 32
9089 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Handmade gifts are awesome. For our wedding, for example, we got some knitted blankets, one of which was an heirloom that my husband’s great great grandmother made plus we got a tablecloth that was embroidered by the same woman with some napkins.

The tablecloth is gorgous but it is exceptionally delicate. We’ll never use it. However the blankets, we’ve used.

It’s one of those things you need to know your audience. I wouldn’t want a blanket (for my baby or otherwise) with any sort of religious text on it, but if that’s your audience, keep on doing what you’re doing.

Post # 33
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

loudsilence99:  I would love anything sewn, knitted or crocheted that my friend took the time, creativity and love to make for me. I also have been excited to receive handmade jewelry, homemade greeting card, homemade cookies. I guess my only caution with any gift, handmade or store bought, that it’s probably the best to know a friends favorite/hated colors and favorite/can’t have due to allergies before gifting.

Post # 34
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’d rather have a handmade gift, but is the recipient of that mindset of handmade = cheap? If so, I’d go with the registry. If not, I’d keep quiltin’ on!

Post # 35
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah I think handmade gifts are sweet and if a quilt is well made with nice fabric pattern choices I would like it but I find a lot of the quilt pattern fabrics to be cheesy or hidious and im not religious so a bible quote would definitely go amiss with me. so id feel bad if someone spent a lot of time and money on a quilt for my baby and I didn’t even like it 🙁

Post # 37
7135 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree, know your audiance. My Mother-In-Law made us a blanket last year and it honestly sat in a closet for an entire year before I got it out to use it. That being said, now I really like it. 

We definitely got some handmade stuff for our wedding, and to be perfectly honest a lot of it is stuff would wouldn’t use. It got donated or thrown away. 

Post # 38
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

loudsilence99:  If you have a pretty good idea that it won’t be taken as well as you hope, just buy something off their registry and it’ll be their loss. Unfortunately, anyone who ever gave a handmade gift someone in my dad’s family got looked at as cheap. Although, usually they were, and it was some little handmade ornament that couldn’t have cost them more than $5 to make and 10 minutes of their time. However, I know that if someone had given even a huge quilt as a gift, it would have been looked at as a disappointment. Some people are naive and entitled. Don’t bother spending your time and money on people like that.

Post # 39
698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I love handmade gifts, but only ones that are not handmade beauty/soap things.  I’m iffy only on beauty and soap because I have such sensitive skin and it makes me anxious not to know if what I’m getting is actually safe to use in such aw ay.  If they professionally make those items and just handmake some, that’s different, but if my Mother-In-Law was making some sort of eyeshadow and offered some to me, I’d be skeptical.  Quilts take so much work and are beautiful – go for it!!

Post # 40
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

loudsilence99:  I know you can’t tell people what to do with a gift, but you’re feelings have to be a teensy bit hurt to have put in all that work and have it not get used.  I understand they think they are flattering you by doing the opposite.  I come from a family of people that sew and I am super crafty, and when we give eachother things, it’s funny how we always put in a note that says “use it and abuse it-I want you to enjoy it-I can always make you another one!”  My mom has been saying that about the stuff she makes for us since we were kids, so it’s kind of ingrained.


Post # 41
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

For the most part, I prefer homemade. For a quilt or something having to do with decor, I think it’s important that the maker take the recipiant into account and either try and match it, or use colours and styles that suit that person, not just themselves. I do tons of homemade stuff (my house is filled with things I do myself), and would absolutely appreciate something made by a friend or family member!

Post # 42
4037 posts
Honey bee

Yes and no.

My daughters each had 3 baby showers this year. They probably got 10 different afghans/quilts/blankets each. I know the ones that will get used are the ones that match their personal taste or nursery decor. Or they’ll use the ones given from people that they see all the time, like my mother.

My cousin makes handmade quilts for the 1st babies in each family. She asked me what my 1st daughter’s nursery colors were going to be (pink, white, bling, and gray/silver) and turned around and made a predominately yellow quilt. My daughter bought a beautiful satin crib set (pink and gray), with matching accessories, even before her showers.

Her Mother-In-Law also asked her if she wanted her friend to make a quilt for her. She said no because my mother had already knitted/crocheted two afghans and she had bought the matching set. She hired the friend to make the quilt anyway. At least the colors go with the nursery decor. Her Mother-In-Law mentioned she could always hang it on the wall, but there’s no room for that.

My Mother-In-Law sent two small knitted/crocheted blankets, for my 2nd daughters baby. My daughter had probably recceived 6-8, of the same type of thing, at the time she received the package. My Mother-In-Law sent one pink and one blue, since she doesn’t know the sex of the baby; the nursery is yellow and green and she already bought a complete bedding/crib set, with mtching accessories. 

I may come off as ungrateful or spoiled, but it seems wasteful to me to spend the time making something without regard to the nursery decor, or personal preferences.


Post # 43
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I love homemade (as long as it is machine washable and you are okay with it being loved and not looking pristine). My mom made me a blanket that matched my nursery decor. I love it! It is going to be well used.

Post # 44
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

loudsilence99:  I find handmade gifts to be hit and miss. What you’re describing, a hand made baby quilt, I think that’s amazing and I would LOVE that as a gift! But I agree you’d need to know your audience, and I could see how some people might not like it.

Maybe if you’re not sure you should go with something off of the registry, it’s A LOT of work for someone who won’t appreciate it.

Post # 45
3003 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I love handmade gifts, even kitschy ones! I have three ridiculous patchwork quilts my aunt made me (think horribly mismatched fat quarters from Joanne’s), a silly-looking fleece tie quilt my best friend made for me with cartoon cats on it, and some blue and white crochet throw blankets from my Grandma. I love them all and use them frequently. 

But, full disclosure: our apartment has a pretty eclectic look to it. My best friend described the look as “Indiana Jones married my Grandma”. Most of our furniture and home decor is thrifted or hand-me-down/white elephant inheritance items from various relatives, most of whom were sailors/world travelers.

I intend to keep with the same random theme for the nursery. Babies are born blind anyways, so I’ll just use whatever until the child is old enough to pick out things he or she will want. 


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