(Closed) How do you feel about "Honeymoon fund" jars at a wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: Having a honeymoon fund jar at the wedding?
    Tacky : (183 votes)
    85 %
    Perfectly acceptable : (27 votes)
    13 %
    Other (please explain) : (6 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Not acceptable. Your guests have already given you a gift. Don’t hit them up for their pocket change too. If you want honeymoon money, do a honeymoon registry.

    Post # 4
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Not ok with me, your guests are already probably giving you a gift so it’s rude to ask for more.

    Post # 5
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    25 posts
    Newbee

    I think they’re rude.

    Post # 6
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    2553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I saw a honeymoon fund jar on pinterest. I made one and set that jar up on top of our bedroom dresser and that is where WE put our pocket change. I wouldnt ask for more money from my guests knowing that they probably already got me a gift to begin with.

    Post # 7
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    8342 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    People are already giving you a gift or a check, I think the jar just looks grabby IMO.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    TOTALLY tacky. It’s all I could remember from a wedding.

    Post # 9
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    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Tacky and rude. I’m sorry but I REALLY wouldn’t like it and would think of someone differently. Make a honeyfund registry and spread it via word of mouth.

    Post # 10
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    485 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    the same as begging.

    Post # 11
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    2952 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I think this is a crazy idea and really rude I would be insulted if I saw this.

    Post # 12
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    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Well good thing you asked first!  I also agree it would be in poor taste and kind of gift grabby.

    Post # 13
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    5242 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Very tacky.

    Post # 14
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    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t really think it’s tacky.  The pinterest pic is cute.  I won’t do one though because I am a freak and feel weird asking for money and presents.  Even inviting people to my shower makes me feel bad.  And I’d obviously be judged as “grabby” or “tacky” by lots of people.  haha.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Tacky, but I’d love to hear from some of the people who said it’s okay about their experiences and why it is seen as okay in their view/social circle?

    There are definitely some “traditions” that are seen as fine in some circles and tacky in lots of other areas (cash bar, dollar dance, etc). This just isn’t one I’ve heard of as being fine.

    Post # 16
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    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think it’s fine. I have been to a few weddings recently that had a birdcage on the gift table. People who brought gifts popped their gift on the table and people who gifted money put it in an envelope in the birdcage. If you expect a gift and money then that is bad form but if you think some will bring a gift and others money then it’s perfectly fine. 

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