(Closed) How do you feel about Jingels? – Re: Wedding Gifts

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I wouldn’t…… I’m from the same area (Calgary) as you, and in my “circle” this would be viewed as tacky. 

If you don’t want gifts, then start a honeymoon/cash registry on your wedding website, and also you could put a little note on your wedding website.  

I would be really really turned off to receive a wedding invite with a little “jingle” like this, sorry to say.

Post # 4
Member
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I really really dislike the first line…

 

 

Post # 5
Member
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Not a fan.

Post # 6
Member
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t like it.

Even if you say it in a cutesy way, asking for money is still asking for money and it puts a bad taste in my mouth.

Post # 7
Member
3942 posts
Honey bee

No, I dont like it at all. Especially that first line.

Post # 8
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

Also if you’re going to “replace the old with the new” – just register for those items? Lol sorry that seems like the most obvious solution to me….. 

Post # 9
Member
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t do it, or recommend it to anyone else.

If you don’t want gifts, don’t register. Your guests will figure it out.

If anyone asks you, just say “We have all the things we need.”

Post # 10
Member
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

yeah i would think it was weird, but would come anyway if it was a good friend

Post # 11
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

WOW. That may be the sort of thing that would land you on EtiquetteHell.com.

Weddings, regardless of whether you’re religious or not, should maintain some degree of honor and sacredness. If you’re marrying at Sturgis or eloping to Vegas and having Elvis marry you, this sort of thing might not be so inappropriate….but if you’re doing a white dress, catering and the whole works, the situation warrants a level of formality a great deal above and beyond this little ditty. A lot of people associate formality with taste and refinement. And very few associate taste and refinement with an announcement to all that you “lived in sin” and have all the sheets you need. People WILL be thinking about the two of you f***ing, because that’s what that means.

Not to mention, you should never dictate what you’d prefer a guest get for you. Registries are only OK because they’re “passive” asking–in other words, completely optional. This is “active” asking, complete with an implication that certain gifts would be less acceptable. Not ok.

 

Post # 12
Member
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I really don’t like these kind of things. I think they’re tacky and pushy and my heart sinks when I get an invite with one! Steer clear!

Post # 14
Member
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I feel awkward reading this.

Post # 15
Member
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I also live in the same area, and I’ve recieved invites like this from multiple people (including relatives). It made me cringe every time – I had an irrational urge to buy a big useless gift with no return reciept. I think I just wouldn’t have a registry – people will get the hint.

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