(Closed) How do you feel about kids at someone else's wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 46
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Depends on the parents and the children. I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding last year and there were only 4 children, but that was 4 to many in my opinion. During speeches I personally had to gather the two boys twice and take them back to their table because they were running back and forth around the tables shouting and carrying on. The parents didn’t even bat an eye. Another wedding I was at, the couple had just been announced into the reception and started their first dance and one of the little boys in attendance ran onto the floor and started “break dancing”  so close to the couple they nearly tripped. The bride kept a polite smile on her face but I’m sure the photos she got back with a 4 year old dancer literally under foot wasn’t what she was paying for. Or when the flower girl\ring bearer continually moved around from the front with the bridal party over to the parents and back again and again and starts talking to the bridal party or whining loudly to their parents because they dont want to stand anymore. Really distracting from the ceremony. 

So I’m definitely in the no kids camp. Either they are too young to care about being there or a tween who is embarrassed or bored. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 2 months ago by deacon.
Post # 47
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would like to chime in as a mother and soon to be bride. 

I have a little boy who will be three at my wedding to his father, we hired 2 baby sitters for him and my sisters sons. The baby sitter is my sisters usual sitter and her mother, they are coming to the ceremony and reception as well to help with the kids.

They are the only children coming to the wedding. All three are in the wedding party.The boys will be brought to a house on the grounds around 7pm so they can go to sleep at their normal bed times.  

I do not think kids should be around a bunch of drunk adults, to me it is the same a bringing a child to a bar. 


Post # 48
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

when me and my siblings were kids and we went to weddings we were made to sit in our seats and stay in them! It was so boring but I understand why my parents did that because kids can be annoying when they are getting in the way. Sorry to say but a lot of parents refuse to maintain control over their kids and I love kid free weddings 

Post # 49
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I honestly don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where children were present. Maybe it’s with my group of friends/family but the ring bearers/flower girls are whisked away to some unknown location after the ceremony & aren’t present for the dinner or reception…I can’t imagine it any other way, I think it would annoy me!

Post # 50
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t really like kids at all but as long as they are well behaved/supervised I couldn’t care less if they are at a wedding.
Hell I wanted a child free wedding myself but allowed an 18 month old and a 4 year old due to special circumstances and lots of kids were at the ceremony but they were all well behaved so I didn’t mind at all

Post # 51
1408 posts
Bumble bee

I dont mind, even though im not 100% for it. I can say I have been at weddings and other events where the parents do not watch their kids. Sometimes they get underfoot, and get on the dance floor and get in everyones way, or just run about like kids do.  As for me, I wouldnt have it.  I think parents should be able to enjoy the day out w/o children, and the children most likely do not care if they go to your wedding or not.  Get a sitter and give them movies and pizza night.

Post # 52
4113 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Its really not the kid, its the parents.. And some of them can be real assholes.

If you’re not capable of ensuring your child behaves at an event, you shouldn’t have them there. Its pretty simple.

Post # 53
2165 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

When I was a kid at weddings my parents went to, I had to stay glued to my mother’s side, and I wasn’t allowed to move, speak, blink or breathe. If I got up, it was to dance with my father. If I had to go to the bathroom my mom took me, stayed with me, and brought me back to the table. You get the idea.

If I am at a wedding today and there are kids, I don’t care at all, as long as they aren’t bothering me, it is none of my business.

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