(Closed) How do you feel about Non matching bridemaid dresses?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How do you feel about Non matching bridemaid dresses?
    I think they should all be the same dress and color : (14 votes)
    8 %
    I like having different style dresses but all the exact same color : (55 votes)
    33 %
    I think they should pick what they want as long as it's within a color range : (78 votes)
    47 %
    It doesn't really matter : (20 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 46
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I choose the color at David’s Bridal and the girls picked the rest.  I had 2 long dresses, 4 short, two strapples, 4 with straps.  I thought it was great because they all liked what they picked.  They felt beautiful so the pictures turned out beautiful! 

    Post # 48
    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    jmuffins5:  I think it can go either way. Personally, I think it makes it easier for the bride and the bridesmaids if some sort of direction is given. I was in a wedding a few years ago when the bride gave us three colors and told us to pick anything. But it had to fit in with the style of her wedding. Honestly, it ended up being really difficult to choose something, because I wanted to makes sure it was something she liked. It would have been eaiser if she selected several and told us to choose from that group. In the pictures, we look really mismatched and honestly, you can’t even tell we were bridesmaids. I just didn’t think it looks cohesive. On the other hand, I really dislike when the bridesmaids are too matchy right down to the shoes. 

    Another friend of mine gave us several styles to choose from (same designer), but in the same color. I thought that was nice, but I also think it could work if you do different shades or colors that compliment each other as long as the dress styles look similar which is easy to accomplish by choosing one designer.

    It’s nice that you want to be easy going, but I would definitely give your bridesmaids some sort of direction. My bridesmaids are all wearing the same dress, but in two different colors. We all went shopping together and they choose the dress. 

    Post # 49
    35 posts

    I really do not like it when the bridesmaid dresses are different colors (different styles makes sense for different body types). Different colors just looks sloppy to me, they do’t look like a wedding party but rather just the same as the guests.

    The funny thing is, that is exactly how my parents wedding party dressed. It looked like the dress code for the bridesmaids was “any pastel dress you like.” In fact it could have been that they all wore pastel by chance, even, and just chose a party dress (the bridesmaids were all naturally pale and pastel suited them). I would say every one of them looked beautiful in her party dress, but the wedding party pictures just look like my parents standing with some guests. Not cohesive. It’s only because I know those pretty girls are my aunts and they were the bridal party that I know this was their “bridesmaids” look.

    I think my mom didn’t really mind what they wore (very laisseiz-faire bride, her Mother-In-Law pretty much planned everyting) so it worked out for her, but it is not my idea of what a wedding party would look like. I would actually rather not have official bridesmaids than have ladies standing up there in different colored party dresses.



    Post # 50
    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I really like them, in part because I couldn’t stomach asking someone to spend $150 on a one-wear dress (it’s a lot of money!), and in part because I find perfectly matching bridesmaids a little creepy, to be honest. Here is how mine turned out- I told them knee-length, blue:


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    Post # 51
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    I really like the way a smaller bridal party looks with all the same dresses (larger I’m not sure, but as I’m working with only 4 girls that’s what my experience has been). I’ve never really been a huge fan of mismatched dresses, except for perhaps the Maid/Matron of Honor. So for my 3 bridesmaids, they will all wear the same dress while my Maid/Matron of Honor will wear wear a different dress in a similar style but another color.

    Thankfully, it just so happens all three of my bridesmaids all have very similar complexions and dark hair (two are my sisters and one is my friend), so in that aspect it makes choosing a color that’s flattering for them fairly easy. Cut is a little more tricky, but as one of my sisters has flat out told me she just does not care at all and will wear literally whatever I pick out, that means I really only have to focus on the other two. Sadly, my friend lives across the country so I can’t exactly go shopping with her, but she says to just send her the options my other sister and I pick out she’ll go with the flow. She’s flexible like that 🙂

    Post # 52
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun

    jmuffins5:  I love theM! I’m not into too matchy matchy so I think they look great. I’m doing black bridesmaids dresses so I think they will look nice bc each girl can kind of show off their personality! 

    Post # 53
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Similar to what someone said earlier, one of my bridesmaids was in another wedding where she was just told a color and to pick her own dress, and she thought it was really hard because the bride still wanted all the dresses to look cohesive together.  I do think those mismatched looks can look great, but I wanted to make things super easy for my girls.  So I picked the color and material and gave them a choice in style.

    Post # 54
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    jmuffins5:  I love this idea, and I think it creates flexibilities for bridesmaids with differenty styles, skin tones, age ranges, sizes, etc.  I am doing this with my bridesmaids… They’re all over the country, so I requested a long plum dress from David’s Bridal.  I will warn you though that sometimes mismatching can be overwhelming if you’re too easy going.  My bridesmaids wished I would have offered a little more guidance or more parameters.  Too much choice created some stress for them.  Everything came together though, and the look is going to be awesome. 

    Post # 55
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I made a collage of the dresses my ladies picked, I love the Alfred Sung dresses because there’s really no wrong way to combine a bunch of the styles, they’re very complementary(did I use the right form of the word there? I’m under-caffeinated today).  My original plan also involved a different colour for each girl in an ombre but a couple of the colours didn’t jive with what I had pictured once I recieved the swatches.  So they’re all in Mosaic dupioni.

    Post # 56
    619 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 BMs, they’re all gonna wear different colors. Smth like raspberry red, peach/coral or pink/fuschia not too sure about the colors yet. I think it’d be good if they had the same dress style/length to keep “some” matching!

    Post # 57
    1325 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

    jmuffins5:  I’m having non matching dresses. Same color, different styles.

    Post # 58
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I am having all of my bridesmaids choose their own dresses. I told them to pick something purple and around knee-length. The only difference is I am putting my sister who is my Maid/Matron of Honor in a floor length purple gown. I want them all to buy a dress they feel beautiful and comfortable in.

    Post # 59
    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    jmuffins5:  I gave my girls instructions and things I wanted in the dresses, had them try on, and I approved them. Every girl has a different dress.

    Post # 60
    2180 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I love mismatched bridesmaid dresses. Identical dresses+shoes don’t really allow for any personal style, plus it look a bit like they’re wearing a uniform…

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