Post # 59
My fiance and I are both 23/24 im in school, we are both working full time and are only making enough to pay the bills, so we certainly were not planning on spending anywhere near that much. MY parents graciously gave us $2,500 for our wedding. So that was our budget. My mom has helped out by paying for my dress, so we have a little more to work with. But it is being done on a budget, and it will be wonderful. Just a ot of diy, and calling in favors from friends with talents (photograhy, dj, etc)
Post # 60
I can’t imagine spending more than 10K on a day. We’re happy with our 6-7K budget and we’re not cutting out anything that is important. We’re very lucky to have some contributions from family as well as winning a photography package.
Post # 61
I think it depends on where you live and how many people you’re inviting! I’m not even doing a “real wedding”…just a Chinese Banquet/reception for about 180 people. The restaurant includes venue, food, drinks, chairs/tables decoration, tax + tip…and that alone was $15000. Add another couple thousand for photographers…various costs here and there, and I’m at $25000!
Post # 62
@jwinnings: hey! My fiance is about to start law school and im just begining by bachelor’s degree so our budget is quite small: around $5,000. To me, our budget seems extremely reasonable for a one day affair. This doesn’t include wedding bands, though. We are inviting around 75 people.
I’m happy for those who are able to spend above and beyond for their special day but I would never spend even half of this “average”; It seems a bit ostentatious. No one is going to know if you spent $300 on your gown or $3,000 and frankly, they don’t care. They just want to see you happy 🙂
Post # 63
AGREE!! I can’t imagine spending much more than that. My sister got married in december, there were 100ppl there & she struggle to talk to everyone in a 5 hr time period. The more ppl u have, the less personal it is (unless its like a weekend extraveganza) It’s just crazy how much people spend on stuff for a wedding!! But like others have said, its all about cost of living. I just read on another post, another Bee pf $1000 for 120ppl, I almost died!!! Here in NE Ohio- the most elaborate is like $6.25/ slice. It’s just crazy to me to spend all this money for 1 day… Unless you really
have it. We’re having a laid back reception at home for our whole family (around 110) and we’re spending a wk at a 5* star resort in Playa del Carmen & having a ceremony there, including a “fancy” A line gown, all for under 6k. YOU & YOUR FIANCE MAKE THE WEDDING!!
Post # 64
Our budget is $20-25k for 100 guests in Baltimore, MD. The national average sounds spot on. Most of the budget for us is the venue. The cake is free, the dress was $599 (alterations still to come), DJ $1k, Flowers $750, STDs $30, Invites $150, Photographer $1.8k, Officiant $400. There are other misc things, but those are all the big ticlet items. Yeah. Our venue with all rentals, food and drink, 2 nights in the hotel, a 1 year anniversary trip to the hotel, DOC, and all sorts of other perks, ……… $14,000. Eep. So so so glad my dad is paying. I’m finishing my MA. Fiance finished his master’s in 2010 and has a well-paying job. I would probably only have to change the venue if we were paying for it ourselves. The rest of the prices are REALLY low for this area.
Post # 65
That is way too much! Our budget is to stay between 10-12k, possibly lower. Our venue itself is $7,000 for 200 people, but it has everything included (centerpieces, cakes, dinner, linens…) so we would just have to worry about my dress his suit and small things. My Future Brother-In-Law is going to be our photographer and will do our invites and video as well (he does it professionally), my dad is a musician so he will be our band, and we will have ceremony in venue so will wont need decor. You can definitely go lower, you just have to look around and see what you can cut out, luckily there is many posts on here on how to do that. I have one so you can take a look there. I have a couple of friends who have wasted about 20k on their wedding, but that is way too much IMO. Like other people have said, it all depends where you live and what things you want to have at your wedding.
Post # 66
Disgusted… honestly. Especially those in the “1%” *cough* Kim Kardashian *cough* who spend millions of dollars on a crap marriage when the money could have gone towards something like schools or health clinics in impoverished nations.
I will be happy to spend <$1000, more if we do an immediate family/very very close friends dinner.
Post # 67
It seems soo high, but when you start planning things, the cost goes up soooo quickly. We are doing absolutely everything to keep the cost down, but since we are traveling across the country to wed where our family lives, it’s just plain costly.
Post # 68
I think that its an amount that can easily be tallied up if you dont have a supportive and understanding family. Our wedding is costing $18,000AUD and we only have 50 people. If we were pressured into having the ‘standard’ 80-120 people, I could very easily see us hitting that amount. We dont have anything spectacular – its in winter, its at a 3 star hotel, we dont have a DJ/band, we dont have transport, we dont have a photographer for the reception, the boys are having suits made in Bali, we dont have a planner etc and yet its still costing us a fair amount. Wedding cost money. If you dont have people around you helping you stay on target, they easily blow out!
Post # 69
I agree that where you live plays a huge factor.
Our wedding is going to be small (50 people including DJ and photographer). All of our vendors are in house or preferred vendors. We are booking out the Inn the entire weekend but will be able to host about 24 of our guests. All events will be on site including rehearsal, RH dinner, breakfast, lunch, ceremnoy, reception, and morning after brunch. The Inn also has a spa but we haven’t booked that out. Hopefully our guests will splurge and buy themselves a spa 🙂
But with all of our vendors we’re at about 18,000. The entire rest of the wedding we’re DIYing and will only include as budget allows.
My e-ring was $800 and my wedding band is a ring my fiance bought for me a few years ago. My dress cost 34 dollars. Shoes 100. All out of pocket.
I can totally see how this will add up to 26,000. It is ridiculous but for us it’s a one time thing and we’re happy to host a wonderful experience for our friends and fam and we know we’re going to have the time of our lives as well.
We’re on a strict budget and at for everything that requires a deposit is factored in and by the end we will be in the green.
Post # 70
I can’t see myself spending that much, but if you’re comfortable with it, it’s a personal call.
My parents are paying for my dress, putting the pastor up for the night, and the photographer (500+1600)
My Fiance and I are paying for the day-of stuff like chairs, tables and a tent (Probably 1.5k) and the honeymoon (around 2 or 3k)
My future in-laws are donating to our pastor and paying for flowers.
Post # 71
I would be sick if I spent that much money on my wedding. If you are good at DIY’ing it and searching for deals, you can save yourself quite a bit of money. My Fiance and I will spend about $5,000 total on our wedding (including the rings and honeymoon) and that’s with 120-130 guests. We found a church that has a banquet hall so we’re having our ceremony and reception in the same location which saves us a ton of money (it costs around $200 to rent the whole thing for the day!)
You also have to be really smart about your purchases and only spend money on the things that are REALLY important to you. I don’t know if others would agree with me but I think that having a short engagement also helps you save money in the long run. I know that for myself, the more time I have to plan, the more things I think I need and I end up spending more money than I’d like to.
Post # 72
Based on what I saw when I first started wedding planning, around 20kish seems like what my wedding was going to end up being. I moved my venue an hour and a half outside the city I live in and the price dropped dramatically. I think stuff may be cheaper in the South than elsewhere also.
Post # 73
It’s certainly expensive, but we can afford it right now (especially with the long engagement). Ours will probably be at that average (which is cheap for Chicago), but we’re looking at this as a one time, super fun expense.