(Closed) How Do You Feel About The Average Wedding Budget?

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 107
Hostess
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I graduated from college in 2006 and at that time was finding it difficult to get by. MY DH and I certainly could not have afforded even the average wedding budget or even half at that point.

Now that we are established in our careers and a little older we decided it was the right time and that we could afford the wedding of our dreams. Our wedding budget was three times the average by the time everything was paid for and we didn’t have much help financially. It was worth it to us to wait (and wait we did, nearly six years) and have our wedding once it  wasn’t so much of a struggle.

Post # 108
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think people should spend what they are comfortable with without going into debt. if its 1k or 100k then its their choice. i know someone who spent hundreds of thousands on their wedding, and i have to admit to me thats madness. she was very rich though, so her choice!

i hate snobbery and reverse snobbery when people talk about weddings

snobbery – is obviously looking down on people who have less expensive weddings and/or have to DIY.

reverse snobbery – snarky comments that may or may not include things like “well i wouldnt want to spend that much on a *party*, but if you feel you *need* to or cant live without it, go for it” or “gosh thats a lot of money. i think brides today think about the party more than the marriage” etc etc. As if having a cheaper wedding somehow proves love more than an expensive one..

Post # 109
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2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am not even enaywhere close to that average (and I thought the average was $15000… guess it went up).  I think you can get away with a nice elegant wedding for much less.  But it does add up and on a smaller budget, some sacrifices have to be made or compromised on (like the dream photograher for a less expensive one).  You can still have what you want on a much smaller scale.

We had 3 kids, 1 in private school and a house, so our budget is tiny.  I am making it work though.  I find deals and steals on every aspect of the wedding, including our rings (which we may or may not upgrade later one).  I love being frugal now so I can feel good about the budget later.  Plus it’s just a one day party…  and for us, while we want it to be fun, we don’t want to go broke for it. 

 

Post # 110
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478 posts
Helper bee

I wish I had the wedding report so i could look myself.  What I’m reading online is conflicting, with one site saying 80% of brides spend less than the average $28,000, and another site saying 30% of brides spend more than $30,000.  In any case, it’s all too expensive, lol.  I’ve been sucked in, too, but “only” to the tune of $12,000 (minus rings and honeymoon).  And even that’s too much.  The amount of stuff that’s now considered normal to have at a wedding is overwhelming, in my opinion, but it’s hard not to get swept up in it.  Obviously, though, you don’t have to do all that.  Have a backyard cookout in a simple dress and without the extraneous bells and whistles and you’ll probable get out of it pretty cheaply.

Post # 111
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That number is VERY daunting!  However, as a math teacher, I have to mention that averages include both the highest (that means outrageously high like Kardashean high) and absolutely low budgets (elopements).  The total for those weddings are then evenly divided by all the examples included.  When there are such variations, it’s usually better to use a median (the middle number) because the outliers (very high numbers, very low numbers), don’t effect the outcome as much.  Ok…now I’m done being a nerd.

It’s absolutely possible to spend way less than 26K.  Just think outside of the box. 

1)You can get a used dress. (check the bee and see how many women sell their dresses).  I’ve even had someone I know get a beautiful gown at the Goodwill!  

2)The biggest expense of a wedding is the food. Technically, you don’t have to have alcohol.  You could also do appetizers. The time of day you have a wedding typically dictates what guests are expecting in terms of food. 

3)You could do diy projects. 

4)Venues,caterers, photographers,etc are often cheaper during the week than the weekend. 

5)Use vendors who aren’t specifically for weddings.  Once wedding is in the name, prices go skyhigh.  For example, restaurants cater and might get you a better deal on food than wedding caterers. 

6)Do you really need the Boutin shoes or could you find knock-offs?

7) Research.  There are sites that show how to keep a wedding budget below 20K, 15K, 10K, etc. (http://voices.yahoo.com/wedding-planning-budget-wedding-cost-under-69588.html)

8)Friends, friends friends….one of my hubby’s friends worked for a florist so she gifted our flowers.  Our pastors wife does cakes on the side…so she offered to make our cake.  My hubby’s uncle videos weddings on the side so he made our video as a gift.  

I understand school tuition though.  If you can pay that 1st and do a cheaper wedding.  Do that.  It would be better to be finacially secure post-wedding than to go in debt for 1 day. (They say the 1st fight a married couple has is over money. Something to think on)

Post # 113
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341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jwinnings:  It bothers me! That’s enough to by a brand new car which you can drive for 5 years without  much maintenance. A wedding lasts one day.

Post # 114
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think there’s no way I’d spend $26k on my wedding, but I’d sure enjoy attending someone else’s 26k wedding…hehe.

Post # 115
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3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow!  We checked in on the budget today.  Last time I posted on this thread we were at 18,000.  As of today we are at 49,000.  Cray cray.  But we are paying for everything ourselves. No debt.  Two full week honeymoon.  Still about 50 guests…but that’s a lot per guest lol.

 

Post # 116
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree, it depends on where you live. I can’t imagine people being able to to have a wedding under 10k. We got a deal and we are only have 135 guest and our reception is on its own 10k. By the time everything is said and done, we will be around or above the wedding average.

Post # 117
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2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mine is going to be around $5000. It just depends on what decisions you might make/ Such as we are having a family friend do our photots. There is $2000 saved right there.

Post # 118
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We’re having the wedding of our dreams (not figuring in rings & honeymoon), which includes a fabulous out-of-town swing band & my top-pick for photographer & a venue we love all for about $6,000 for about 75 guests.

 

Post # 119
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1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I always thought that was high…it’s really not. It’d be VERY easy to spend that much.
My wedding would be substantially cheaper but I went with the crazy expensive venue…Well, it wasn’t crazy expensive for a normal size wedding but with my less than 50 guests and a 6000.00 min on JUST food..Ooops. I don’t know why I didn’t think that was too high?! Oh well.

I have kept the big things under 15,000.00

I’m not keeping track of the little things….

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