Post # 61
I think Friday’s are acceptable as long as they are later in the evening. I had a friend who got married at 6PM on a Friday in Dallas. I had to rush home after work, get ready, only to be caught in horrible traffic. Needless to say, they did not start on time.
For out of town guests it might be an issue expecially with getting time off from work.
Post # 62
I think if it is a local wedding, a Friday or weekday wedding can work fine. I’m in the same boat with a lot of other people though. I can’t always take off during the week, even with lots of notice. We considered having a friday wedding or Sunday wedding but so many people we care abbout wouldn’t be able to make it. We’re going to wait a little longer and save up for a Saturday instead. It just depends where your priorities lie. For some families, I don’t think it would be a big deal. For my family, it would be a huge inconvenience.
Post # 63
aquabee: I agree that if attending your wedding is important to them, they’ll find a way to make it. Sometimes work schedules can’t be avoided and there will inevitably be guests that can’t make it but you should do what works best for you and your Fiance. It’s your weddin, do what you can afford and what makes you both happy.
My Fi and I looked into dping a Thursday or Friday wedding in Vegas and because people would have to travel for it anyway, it would have been like a long weekend getaway type thing so it can work in some situations.
Post # 64
Curlycupcake: I guess I just don’t find an offensive value judgement very supportive but hey…that’s just me 🙂
Post # 65
jily: Right, I’m not trying to be supportive of rude and childish people. People who care for their friends and family get my full support.
Anyway, I’m done arguing with you over this.
Post # 66
We did a Friday evening wedding but here in Australia people have better leave allowances/more flexibility so it’s less of an issue. We only had one decline.
Post # 67
It depends. If the wedding is local and on a Friday? I would more than likely do my best to attend, especially if the ceremony is later.
It really strikes a nerve with me, though, when people make comments like, “If they love you enough they will attend!”; or, “with enough given notice there’s NO REASON someone should not be able to take the time off to see you!”; or, as someone else mentioned in this thread, they would cut off a friendship entirely with someone “too busy” to attend their wedding.
I’m a full time graduate student. My cousin got married on a Wednesday. Do I love her? Yes. Did I want to be there? Absolutely. Did she give me a year’s notice? Yep. Could I attend the wedding? Nope.
It was a long distance wedding and would have required me to fly out on Tuesday, attend the wedding on Wednesday, and fly back on Thursday. As a grad student that also teaches undergraduates, I couldn’t take off essentially a week’s worth of school and I couldn’t give my undergrads three days off for a wedding. It had zip to do with whether or not I was given notice and whether or not I loved the bride and groom.
Also, the notion that someone wouldn’t want to be friends with someone “too busy” to attend their wedding really irks me, but that’s a feminist rant for a different day.
If you want to have a week day wedding, that’s totally fine, but don’t assume that people don’t love if you if they can’t make it, and certainly don’t cut off friendships with them. That’s crazytalk.
Post # 68
Curlycupcake: Its interesting you see an argument where I see someone unnecessarily offensive. However you are correct and I agree; enough has been said on this point. We can agree to disagree, that’s the beauty of the hive.
Post # 69
For a Friday, I would take a half day off of work to travel to the wedding. If it were mid-week, I’d really have to be close to you to attend. Fridays don’t bother me…and your Brother-In-Law is right. They will come because they love you and will work it out. Do expect more “no”s, however.
Post # 70
fscarlett: Me too! I get married next week on a Thursday and we’ve received a significant discount or two not having it on a Saturday. Our venue alone is thousands cheaper! We sent save the dates 7months ago.
Post # 71
If you’re considering having your wedding Monday-Thursday you’re asking people not to show up. I’ve been to Friday weddings before. If the ceremony is in the evening i have no problem with it. It was touch for me since i was a bridesmaid and had to travel so i had to take off work Thursday AND friday. If the ceremony is during the day you can’t expect people to leave work for it but they’ll be at the reception no problem. Sunday weddings are a little tricky if you have people coming from out of town too because they’ll likely have to take off work Monday if your wedding is later in the evening. If i was invited to a wedding on a Monday-Thursday i would politely decline. If they were a very very very close family member i might consider going,
Post # 72
I just got married yesterday (Thursday) and everyone we invited came with the exception of two people who were away on vacation. Keep in mind though that we had a small number of guests (40). Our wedding was beautiful and just what we wanted, not to mention we saved $2500 on our venue by not having a weekend wedding.