Post # 1
Just curious, does anyone in here have particularly strong feelings towards their future in-laws, whether that’d be love or hate? I personally can’t stand my SO’s mother who thinks that nobody is good enough for her son and tried everything to break us apart. Well, now she has to keep her mouth shut because he’s an adult after all but she still would be thrilled to see us break up. Oh well, at least my SO is an incredible man who has fought for us and defended me to the end…I guess you can’t have it all….
How about your in-laws? And how do you handle them if they become a problem for your relationship?
Post # 3
I love them and they love me and it makes everything so much better and easier. I can’t even imagine having strife with my in-laws like some of the girls on the boards do. Then again, I’ve never had any problems with any my past boyfriend’s families either. I guess I lucked out and just was always involved with people with exceptionally awesome relatives. (Though I do think a LOT of in-law drama is brought on by the individual themselves, even if they don’t realize it. Not saying this specifically toward you, but just in general. In life, it seems you get about as much trouble as you like to give.)
Post # 4
I love my In- laws they are amazing people and a huge help with my daughter! I have been in a previous marriage though where my in laws were just horrible to me they never liked me from the start and it was a big problem in our relationship.
Post # 5
Well mine aren’t future in-laws anymore – they’re actual in-laws and they are WONDERFUL! Honestly, I feel really blessed to have such great in-laws and know that they’d do anything they could to help Darling Husband and I if we needed it.
Honestly – DH’s parents remind me a lot of my own parents which is probably a large part of why we’ve clicked so well.
Post # 6
I absolutely love my Future Mother-In-Law, she is a total sweetheart! Now the Future Father-In-Law is a little different.. He isn’t a very sociable person at all which for years led me to think he just really didn’t care for me.. It seems like the older he gets though the better he seems to get with speaking to others & making an effort.
Post # 7
I love them! They treat me amazingly and I can’t wait to be the new addition to their family!
Post # 8
My Future In Laws are just as messed up as my family, so I love them. Future Mother-In-Law is a straight shooter, no bullshit type of woman which is what I am so we get along great. Future Father-In-Law is just funny in an ironic way. He tries to attempt to be a good person and is as supportive as a prison guard of 25 years can be.
Post # 9
I LOVE my in-laws. His mother is the nicest, kindest, most selfless person I’ve ever met and it made my Fiance who he is today. His dad and I have completely opposite views when it comes to politics….. and college football. It’s funny because we joke about it all the time and have never had a heated conversation about it or try to push our views on each other.
Post # 10
Hate is a very strong word but you can only deal with so much before you start having those feelings. I tend to just laugh it off. Anyone who has read some of my comments about Future Grandma in law knows I’m not particularly found of her. Although my Satan’s Bellkeeper nickname has made for some great laughs 🙂
Post # 11
Mine are ok. We come from very different cultural backgrounds, which frankly has caused some problems. Whenever we come to visit, which is every couple of months, sometimes more, they don’t really acknowledge my presence. They just kindve do their own thing.
It’s really awkward, and I have wound up in tears over it several times. My fiance is also unhappy, because she doesn’t get why I get so upset over it when, “that’s just they way they are.” My parents are super chatty, and talk to us, and hug us, and tell us they love us, etc. You can see the difference.
It’s not that there is something wrong with them, but I am sad that I don’t have a relationship with my in-laws like I always thought I would.
Post # 12
Wow, I guess I’m the only one on here who has problems with my SO’s family–specifically his mother. I’ve been nothing but nice to her but she doesn’t like me because she thinks I stole her son. I guess that’s how it will always be.
Post # 13
Well I love the Future Mother-In-Law, and her boyfriend. I also really like Future Brother-In-Law and his wife as well as Future Sister-In-Law … i guess they are both my FSIL’s.
I haven’t met Future Father-In-Law or his wife yet, but unless he’s a complete opposite of my SO, i think it should go ok.
Post # 14
I am extremely lucky to get on so well with my future in-laws. From the beginning they accepted me as part of their family and even tho Fiance has 2 sisters his mum says I am the 3rd daughter.
Post # 15
I love my future in-laws!! FI’s parents are divorced but I love both sides. They’ve all always made me feel very welcome and as part of the family. I really love FI’s siblings too and feel like they’re my own brothers and sister.
I have also always had good relationships with the families of any of my SOs.
Post # 16
Mine are awesome! I actually go over there for dinner without Fiance sometimes, if he has to work late or is doing a project or on a trip or something. Sometimes it’s lonely to eat by myself, and Future Mother-In-Law is a fabulous cook, so…
They also have 2 puppies that I love to play with. I do dogsit for them when they’re out of town, but you can’t ever get too much puppy time.
We have a standing 1/week dinner & games night, too; we alternate who hosts (so I’ll host one week, then Future Mother-In-Law will host the next). Gosh, we’re dorky!