Post # 1
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1295 posts
Bumble bee
My cousin is getting married today. My b/f older sister is getting married next month in the dominican and were going. My b/f younger sister who is a year older than me just got engaged last nite. I’m really happy for all of them. I’m just a little sad because I know it’s not going to happen for me for probably another one to two years. Although I’m still in school and won’t graduate until next year so I don’t want it to happen until i’ve gotten a job and am situated. Although I still can’t help but being a little sad. The funny thing is now all the pressure is going to be on him from his family to propose. I’m just going to sit back and shut my mouth at least try really hard and enjoy. How do you guys deal when close people you know or any people for that reason get engaged? Thanks for reading my vent.
Post # 3
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215 posts
Helper bee
for me, i didnt pay any mind to it. i’m engaged NOW, but when my bff had gotten engaged and my other gf’s did as well and then later married, i felt that slight tinge of sadness… but it was gone in a second because i was so happy for them. i didn’t want to think about it also because it would only put unneeded pressure on myself and on my (now) Fiance. just live your life and be happy. there’s no point in stressing yourself out over these things.
Post # 4
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226 posts
Helper bee
It’s tough to be waiting when others are celebrating their love. You want to be able to openly celebrate your love too. At every stage in my life, I try to remember that I should be enjoying where I am. That can be very hard, especially when others around your are moving into another stage. Like Ms. Kookie said, you don’t want to rush. When you rush, you miss the chance to enjoy not only where you are, but where you are going.
Use the current time to enjoy your relationship as it is. Enjoy one another for who you are and who you become as time passes. I don’t want anyone else’s relationship. I want the one I have with the man I love. I might still get a twinge of sadness when someone else gets engaged, but I try to keep things in perspective.
Post # 5
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402 posts
Helper bee
I’m 25, and a lot of my peers are engaged or married at this point. I’m surrounded by married girls, and I think I was the only unmarried girl at my own birthday party! I don’t mind it much coming from my friends but when my old high school classmates and elementary school friends are getting married and having kids, I feel left behind and pressured.
I reason to myself that there’s no rush. My best friend isn’t in a rush either, so that helps.
I’d love to get married and be married to my current SO. But I’m going to be patient because 1. I’m going to be an encore bride. and 2. I’m about to graduate and I should at least have a job…which will be by the end of this year. I figure I’ll keep dreaming and start to worry later when I’m 28 or something.
Post # 6
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2054 posts
Buzzing bee
It does sometimes frustrate me…I am 26…I just bought my own house…have a great steady job that pays well…and I just feel like thats the only thing missing right now is being engaged…I have friends that are in a lot less “secure” situations and have dated a lot less time then we have that are getting married this year (4 so far and its still March!) BUT I just am coming to terms with the fact that each couple has their own timeline and we have ours. It doesnt mean my relationship is any less stable or happy then anyone else’s. At first I did feel like Regina George in Mean Girls when she finds out that the candy bars she was eating were fattening here LOL:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJKdTOPJDPQ
Post # 7
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1295 posts
Bumble bee
I am happy with my relationship and I’m just trying to enjoy what’s going on now. I know my time will come eventually and right now just isn’t it. I was sad for a fleeting moment but my happiness for them has overshadowed it. Thank for all the advice.