(Closed) How do you feel when people call your ring interesting, different or unique?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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@TG123:  I have gotten comments like classic, simple, basic, elegant, understated, and one person went so far to say, “you may forget it’s even there!” It doesn’t bother me because I got the ring I was comfortable with, and if others wouldn’t choose it because it’s too simple, then they should get something more blingy for themselves.

Don’t let comments eat away at you. Even if someone thinks it’s costume jewellery, who cares? I’m the girl that freaks out over a chipped nailpolish lest someone think I’m looking dishevelled, and even I don’t care what people’s opinions are regarding my ring. It’s a promise between you and your Fiance – don’t let anyone take away from the specialness of that!

Post # 18
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Worker bee

i love it!  my doctor looked at my ring for a solid 3 minutes and all she came up with was “that is so unusual.  you really like to think outside the box, huh?”.  best compliment so far, lol!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

PS – I just stalked your comments, and found a picture of your ring. It’s lovely! And it’s certainly not “out there” enough that I’d be worried about people thinking it’s costume jewelry. It’s a beautiful ring.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

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@TG123:  (I swear I’m almost done posting!) I think people’s reactions also depend on how you present the ring, if it’s at all non-traditional.

My ring is a little non-tradtional, too. It’s rose gold, and has a pretty small non-diamond stone, and a unique design, in my opinion. Every time I show it to someone else, I gush about it! “Isn’t it PERFECT for me? Fiance knew exactly what to get me for my engagement ring!” And I haven’t gotten a single rude comment.

When people see something non-traditional, they might say things that you’d interpret as rude just because it’s not something they’re used to. When your hairdresser asked about whether he’d be buying you an engagement ring, is it possible that she just wasn’t familiar with colored stone e-rings? If she’s never seen one before, she might have been confused; which isn’t an insult! 

If people know you love your e-ring, they’ll love it, too. When you show people your ring, instead of waiting eagerly for their critical reaction, tell them how much you love it and that it’s perfect for you. They’ll give you exactly the reaction you want. 🙂

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@TG123:  I’m sorry you’re feeling insecure love, I think your ring is beautiful! Your hair dresser was tactless, and apparently doesn’t understand that engagement rings come in all sorts of shapes, colors, sizes, and rocks. Her loss!

I’m told my ring is unique all the time, and sometimes I’m a little self conscious about my ring, but at the end of the day I love it, because it’s perfect for me, and honestly I like that it’s not something everyone would want to wear every day for the rest of their life, because not seeing something very similar to it on other people’s fingers makes it more exciting to me. We went to a jeweler in FI’s hometown, which is apparently full of judgemental women, and a girl who worked there, who Fiance went to school with, looked at my ring very carefully before saying she loved how unique it is. Maybe she meant it, maybe she didn’t, but either way I love it, and if someone is going to question my taste I’ll question their priorities, because my ring doesn’t affect them.

That being said, I really hope you develop the confidence to totally rock your gorgeous, unique ring, but if you don’t, I won’t judge you for replacing it for something more subtle.

 

 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

Because my ring is pretty much as plain, common, and classic as they come, I’d be wondering what the hell is wrong with whoever said it.

If my ring actually was interesting, different, or unique…I wouldn’t be offended because that would probably be why I picked it.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve never gotten that on my ring, but I think usually people say that when they don’t particularly like something. I don’t take it as a compliment at all unless they add to it. Like sometimes I’ll say, “I love that! Its so different!” that sounds positive, to me. But if I hear “oh thats different” and thats it then I don’t think its all that positive lol.

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@TG123:  I’m totally one of those people! When I see a non diamond or sapphire e-ring, my head is like “Does not compute” and explodes.

So instead I go “Wow! That is really unique!” Because otherwise I’m going to say something unintentionally offensive like “Wow! I would totally wear that as a cute cocktail ring!”

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I get those comments all the time because my engagement ring is a bezel halo.  I would be more upset if someone described my ring very common looks like a ring that everyone has. 

Post # 27
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Honey bee

Sometimes I say interesting to mean it is interesting, sometimes I say interesting because I think it’s ugly and it would be awkward if I didn’t say anything.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

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@TG123:  First of all, your ring is GORGEOUS.  I toyed with the idea of going the morganite route myself.  Some people just don’t get it, because they are old-fashioned and think it has to be a diamond.  But your ring is amazing and you should love it!  Don’t let other peoples opinions make you think less of your ring.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hear it a lot, but it’s always in a positive way.  I like that my ring is different from the expected look. 

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Honestly, I thought the whole, Oh show me your ring!! was a bit awkward, especially since it took me a while to be OK with an e-ring (initially I didn’t want one at all!). 

 

But I came to terms with it. Everyone just wants to support/ show their love somehow. Traditionally, this is how other ladies show their support. I have a pretty unique ring too, I got remarks like “wow I have never seen an e-ring like that ever before” It was awkward. But once you get used to showing off your ring you relize that everyone is just trying to share in the excitment of your love! That’s exciting and incredibly sweet of them

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@TG123:  I take it as a compliment 🙂 I absolutely love my ring and I got to pick it out, so I love it no matter what anyone says. The most “negative” comment was my mom asking if it was paid with credit or cash. Leave me the hell alone, I just got engaged and that isn’t your business. Some classless people asked me how much it was.. to which I replied “a lot” lol that can be any amount to any given person so whatever 🙂

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