(Closed) How do you feel when people…

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have a huge problem with it, depending on who uses it, but my sister refuses to use it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

I don’t see the big deal.  I say that all the time.  And the word “whore”. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

The only 2 words I really don’t like are the “GD” curse word and the “That person is such a C-NT!”

I hate those words.

Ugh.

Other words I’m pretty much like whatever.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it depends on the context of how it is used. If it is just among friends and they’re not using it a degrading manner then I don’t see a problem with it but when people use it to define a womens status that’s when I have a problem with it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a couple acquaintances who’re on the bandwagon of this whole feminist movement where women are trying to re-appropriate the word “slut” as something with a positive meaning, like saying they’re carefree and comfortable with their sexuality. I guess they’re trying to remove any power it has. I don’t think I’m on board with that (it sounds fine in principle, but definitely runs into problems if you think about it enough), so mostly that word makes me confused and a little frustrated. 

ETA: I’ve never been seriously called that, and none of my friends have either, so I don’t have a very strong negative reaction to it. I’m sure it would be different for someone who has been the target of an insult like that. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

There are very few words in existence that I have an issue with and “slutty” is certainly not one of them. 

@Torrid:  I’m sure I’m totally in the minority here but “cunt” is actually like one of my favorite words. I’d estimate that I say it on a daily basis, mostly because I call douchy female drivers “honeycunt” when they piss me off. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@florence:  I agree with you, it bothers me. It’d be different if there were an equivalent word for men, but of course there isn’t. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

I really hate slut-shaming.  I never, ever use that word as an insult.  If someone wants to sleep around, that’s her/his perogative and telling them that they are a bad person for doing it is petty and childish. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@UpstateCait:  It doesn’t bother me if other people like the word, lol. I think I don’t like the word because it sounds…ugly to me. Just ugly. Obviously for me the GD word is a religious thing, but cunt is just really ugly sounding.

English in general isn’t very pretty sounding but MAN…it’s sound makes me cringe. Lol.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@UpstateCait:  haha honeyc*** may be my new fave version! 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Truthfully the word slut or slutty in essence don’t really bother me. I guess what I don’t like is when women use it about other women when they are friends with each other, like girls who say, “Hey bitches” to refer to their friends, but they are not actually mad at their friends and are not actually saying, “You’re a bitch.” I don’t like that. There was this episode of SYTTD and this one bride was referring to her bridesmaids as “whores” and calling them her prostitutes or something like that, like in a loving way. That really bothers me. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a huge issue with it.  It perpetuates a stereotype and then there’s slut shaming which is never.ever.ever. okay.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Taeyers:  I have a couple acquaintances who’re on the bandwagon of this whole feminist movement where women are trying to re-appropriate the word “slut” as something with a positive meaning, like saying they’re carefree and comfortable with their sexuality. I guess they’re trying to remove any power it has. I don’t think I’m on board with that (it sounds fine in principle, but definitely runs into problems if you think about it enough), so mostly that word makes me confused and a little frustrated. 

I remember there were a couple studies about this “reclaiming” thing going on.  Not only for “slut” but for other words like “faggot” and “retarded”, you get the idea.  The results basically showed that it didn’t take the power away from the words, just made it more acceptable to use them in derogatory ways and ends up being more hurtful in the end. It still perpeatues the stereotype.  That’s the issue I have with things like SlutWalk.  I love the concept, but calling it SlutWalk still perpetuates that stereotype.  

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