(Closed) How do you fire a friendor?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Don’t worry about it. Keep it simple and sweet, if she emails you back tell her while she was the top choice she didn’t reply to you, and being so close to the wedding you had things to get done and went with another vendor.

Hopefully this will help her and teach her a lesson about how to treat customers even if you are her friend.


Post # 4
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Luckily you haven’t hired her, so you don’t really need to fire her. 🙂  I would just tell her you decided to go in a different direction.  If she presses you for a reason why, consider telling her kindly so she can improve her business, unless you think it will hurt your relationship.

Post # 5
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If you absolutely cannot do it in person, send her a nice note card saying although you appreciate her assistance with your wedding you would prefer that she attend as a friend/guest so she can really just enjoy the party; drop the bomb at the end of the note that you have already contracted with someone else so she doesn’t have to worry about it.  It sounds a bit to me like she’s dealing with one of two things: 1) she’s overwhelmed by the planning process and not as organized as she probably should be; or 2) she’s not taking your wedding seriously because you’re a friend and not a regular customer (this is the downside to using a friend as a vendor.)

Bottom line: try to be as positive about it as possible and be prepared for her to be upset because on some level she probably doesn’t want to lose the business even though it seems to me that she is not providing much customer service in the way of keeping you as a client anyway.

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