(Closed) How do you forgive yourself?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You don’t have to let it roll off your back. You can choose to internalize a lesson, however small it may be, instead of the hurt. I’m not saying you were in the wrong, it could even be as small as a lesson about avoiding that particular phrasing. And take comfort in the knowledge that you meant well. 

Post # 5
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4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to remind myself that what’s done is done and there’s no taking it back now, so dwelling on it and beating myself up isn’t helping anyone, and that all I’m doing is hurting myself.

Post # 6
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Now I want to know what you said!  I think you just have to realize that first of all, this is the Internet, and people will not be able to understand you.  They might misinterpret you.  You cannot let that bother you.  If you think what you wrote was inappropriate, then the only thing you can do is apologize and try to see other people’s perspectives.  That will help you change your views or whatever (I can’t say because I don’t know the situation).

As for the kid in fifth grade…I bet he’s over it.  Don’t worry about it! =)

Post # 7
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@KateByDesign:  Atleast you have the ability to go back and edit the content that you post, unlike on here- HAHA. 

Anyway, my advice is to not beat yourself up about it, that’s not going to help the situation anymore. Whats done is done and you can’t change the opinions others have formed of you, but you can change the way you view yourself 🙂

Post # 8
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1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@KateByDesign:  Then this probably doesn’t count as advice, since it’s really hard to think this way about yourself, but I would forgive you because I would believe that only a decent person would truly feel remorse for offending someone else. Does that help :)?

Post # 9
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Does this happen a lot to you- could it just be your personality or something in the lines of your words always come out wrong?

Regardless, the PP’s had some great advice. You must tell yourself to live and let go! Tomorrow is a new day with a new approach, new beginning and second chance!

Post # 12
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@KateByDesign:  Was it the way you phrased a thought, or was it actually offensive?  

Post # 13
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Just remember, there’s no future living in the past!

Post # 14
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@KateByDesign:  Okay, that makes much more sense! I have had a few similar experiences, and it really does just rock your core, since its out of character for you!

Post # 15
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If I’ve hurt someone, I try to make amends (for example, by apologizing or doing something kind for them).  If I’ve made a mistake that mainly affects myself, I try to learn a lesson and move on with my new knowledge.  If I’m stuck dwelling on something negative that happened, I (sometimes – when appropriate) try to force myself to focus on all the positive things in my life that I’m grateful for.  If I’m really stressed about it still, I talk to my husband/mom/friends about it.

I hope you start to feel better soon!

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