- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I posted a lot about this last year when it first happened but I’m still having a really hard time getting over it.
How do you get over a good friend suddenly ending your friendship out of nowhere?
My best friend of 20 years (since high school, I’m 35), suddenly ended our friendship right after being a bridesmaid in my wedding.
She had been cold and rude to me and to my family during my wedding planning, but everytime I reached out to ask her what was going on she either ignored me, gave me some kind of snotty response, or told me she was just going through stuff and was busy. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and it got me a huge slap in the face in the end.
Literally the day after my wedding she blocked me from facebook, ignored my texts and then sent me an EMAIL saying that the world doesn’t stop turning for one event and that she agreed to be in my wedding until I said otherwise so that’s exactly what she did, and that she was now blocking me from all contact and to respect her family’s privacy from this point forward. (COLD!!!) That’s it. After 20 years. She also was our only guest to not give us a card or gift or sign our frame, she didn’t want to give a speech and she left early without a word. She had also missed our engagement party and was late and left early for our rehearsal dinner. It became so obvious after.
How do you do that to someone?! I can understand friendships changing and fading out, but to be in someone’s wedding and take pictures and participate only to turn around and do that right after??? How heartless!!!!!
Honestly, I was excited about my planning yes of course and talked about it, but I was pretty easy, only getting the girls together once for lunch so they could meet, and let them pick their own dresses, shoes, hair and bought them jewellery. No one even came dress shopping or for fittings with me and I didn’t expect it. I expected very little. To end a friendship over it???? I mean that day is long gone now, so…….? Worth it?
I had been a good friend to her going above and beyond for her wedding being the Maid/Matron of Honor and for her first baby shower, but then when it my turn she turned on me. When it was her turn it was all she could talk about, and then she just couldn’t be a friend in return.
I’m so hurt and angry that she did that. I don’t know, am I wrong?
Sorry for the long rant, I clearly still have many deep feelings about it.
How do you get over something like that? We are completely out of touch now, haven’t heard another peep from her since she dumped me and I doubt I ever will. She had been notorious for doing this to people in the past, I just never expected her to do it to me.