(Closed) How do you get over being angry at your partner?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First off, ((HUGS)), I hate when plans don’t go as you wanted them to.


I let myself calm down naturally. If I just forgive&forget really fast then I usually end up getting re-angry later on when I realize that nothing was really resolved. Years ago I did one of those “love language” and “language of apology” tests, and I really need to know that the mistake won’t happen again and have him acknowledge exactly why it was wrong. Luckily, it usually takes me a lot to get mad. 


Post # 4
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Try working out a little. Blow off some steam that way. Or create a funny / stupid weddingbee thread and let us laugh with you.

Post # 5
1716 posts
Bumble bee

I look objectively at the situation and decide if it’s really worth the fight or my anger.

It may not work all the time, but things sure have been better.

Also, I will say I DO get irritated a lot, not angry, irritated, there is a large difference. I always let SO know if something he said or did irritated me before it turns into anger.

Post # 6
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You have to talk about it and bring it up again, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU MAY NOT WANT TO. Communicationo is key. Let him know how you felt, how he’s not “off the hook” and your feelings are being taken for granted. He needs to know that he has to put you and your wedding together first, not going out till 4am. I would be so annoyed. If you stay quiet and let it slide, eventually the passive aggressive behavior will come back and bite you in the butt. 

Post # 7
3303 posts
Sugar bee

I stew a bit but then I get over it. If the argument isn’t worth my relationship, then I make sure to remember that.

Post # 8
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It can help me calm down to remember the thoughtless things I have done and how he’s forgiven me. When I think about some of the silly conclusions I have reached/gotten angry over, it makes me want to cut him some slack. I also remember how wonderful it feels to be forgiven. This doesn’t mean that I refrain from communicating how I felt, but I’m calmer once I’m off the anger-train.

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