How do YOU get your man to take you on a date?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

how do YOU get your man to take you on a date?

when i tell him to  🙂

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I guess I dont have this problem… either him or I say  “What are we doing this weekend?”  We take turns picking restaurants when we hear of a good one, or suggesting something we heard about- a movie we want to see, calling up friends, a groupon we want to do…

He never was good at the random flowers etc, but he is so appreciative of everything I do and we go out all the time so that sort of thing was never something I missed.

Instead of waiting for him to plan or ask, just say what do you want to do this weekend? If he cant come up with something, you pick, then next weekend say OK its your turn.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just tell him when I want to go out and he takes care of it. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

btw, my guy “treats me nice” every day. somedays he picks up chinese on the way home, somedays he phones and asks me if i want anything from the store so i dont have to deal with the hassle. its the little things that says he is thinking of me and cares  🙂

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

“Lets going out to dinner one day this week!” or he suggests it.. if he starts slumping, I usually just let him know (not in a naggy way, that wont help) that I’m feeling a little unappreciated

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the issue is not that he doesn’t take you out but it lies that you told him he should tone it down he blew you off and you let the issue go. You shouldn’t have. You should have had a discussion about your expectations, and what his were and how you both intend to meet your expectations or compramise to meet in the middle.

Mine is simple, he enjoys taking me out, becase I take him home… (and well you do, do my thing)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well I just told him that I want a date night once a week. As well as a separates night. (He goes his way with his friends and I go mine, not cheating, nothing of the sort, just a night to ourselves.)

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I tell him if I want to go out and do something, and he tells me if he wants to go out and do something. Not rocket science. 

And in terms of “treating you nice”? Lady, that is not negotiable. It’s not about roses and dates – it’s about making you feel loved. If he can’t do that, he’s not just slacking – he’s not worth it.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Men and women are different. They do not know what we want/need. We comminicate very differently.

Tell him what you want in very specific terms-” I want us to have  a date night once a week/ every 2 weeks”- whatever works for you.

“I suggest we alternate taking responsibility for planning the date. I will start this weekend.”

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@eloping: My thought EXACTLY. Love it.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance works evenings all week and his off day’s are Sunday and Monday.. so every Monday we have a “date day” whether its sitting around the house together being lazy or go out and do something… other than that either him or I will ask. The smallest things make me happy.. just a text from him while hes at work puts a smile on my face.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance will just surprise me and tell me to get ready we are going out and he will bring flowers and chocolates or some other suprise home every other week.We usedc to have date night once a week before we had our son but we dont do that much anymore. But now he will do something thoughtful everyday, something that helps me out or whatever. Even the ‘i love you’ text messages I get after he leaves for work make me feel special.

I think the thing to remember is the door swings both ways. Do you do things to make HIM feel special and do thoughtful things for him?

I also think relationships get to a point where the ‘courting’ (like dates and flowers) stop and the comfort begins. Like the courting is the falling in love part where you both do romantic things everyday but then when your in love you just start a different phase and stop expecting those things. Maybe your just not ‘in tune’ you know. Talk it out…

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Angelique02: Maybe you should just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. My Fiance and I understands that what we did to get in this relationship is the same thing we need to do to keep this “relationship”… its a two way street. With that being said, we always try to do things together even if its just sitting back watching a movie, playing cards, etc… Although we go out all the time, we also make it a point to do a “date night” once a month….. we alternate as far as taking turns (one month is his turn, next month is mine)…. and we go all out and its a surprise… so whoever turn it is have figure out what they want to do and plan it out…..

Good luck…. I’m sure once you let him know that you have an issue with it, he will change things up…. Sometimes we have to TELL men what we want even though we feel they SHOULD know, lol…..

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d talk to him and let him know how you feel.

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