(Closed) How do YOU get your man to take you on a date?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sometimes I plan a night and let him know what we’re doing ….. he’s good tho, and he plans things too!!

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I come up with a fun idea that he would enjoy. After a while the cinema and dinners get boring and you could spend your money on other things, or save your money for the wedding and do things that are free. Take him ice skating this winter. Perhaps hes getting tired of the same old thing? Im not sure, just guessing. Try asking him

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My husband has never been one to plan extravagant dates or anything like that. Every once in a while he will go to the grocery store on his way home from work so we dont have to go later and hell pick up some flowers. And he might say “I want to take you out to dinner tonight” every so often. Most of the time we usually just discuss that we havent had a date night in a little while and well talk about what to do or where to go. And he treats me nice every single day – like others said, its the little things. To me, something as simple as doing the dishes for me when he knows I dont feel like it is doing something nice!

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We always celebrate holidays, which bumps up the number of nice dates automatically :). If we haven’t been out in awhile, I’ll just ask and he’ll take me somewhere. 

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

“Honey, let’s have date night. Dinner and a movie? Friday at 7? Let’s see XYZ”.

Done!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just inform him that we are having a date night! Mine has turn in to such a homebody over the last few months its nice most of the time but every once in awhile I miss going out & getting all glamed up!

Post # 23
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Worker bee

Are yall still together? If so, did he eventually start appreciating you again? Please, I’m about to get married. This kind of thing scares me.

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Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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ladykatie82:  

Read her other threads, babe. I don’t think this couple are or ever were compatible regardless of whether they stayed together or not. And my DH has never changed. Neither have I. Because we know that if you are going to be together forever and still fancy each other like mad, you need to commit to working at it every single day. My DH is sweet to me and in turn I am sweet to him in small but cumulative ways. You need to make sure your partner understands that laziness and marriage are oxymorons. Both of you need to work to win the other, flirt, have fun, date and be romantic in whatever way you can all the freakin time. I call my DH my boyfriend forever because we still treat each other like our first high school romance. You have to maintain the fun and you have to be able to to talk about EVERYTHING. If he is not willing to make you feel cherished, there is a serious problem. Protect yourself. And don’t be bamboozled. If a man tells you you are overreacting or paranoid he is a dud. A good man says, babe, I’m so sorry you feel like that. What can I do to make you feel better. Truth. I’ve experienced both. I hope you discuss this in detail with your Fiance. Pm me if you want to chat further.

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I ask him if he wants to go out.  If he knows I want to do something, he’ll almost always do it if it’s at all possible.  He wants me to be happy.

Post # 26
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Wannabee

I have a similar issue. Since my partner and I got togeather and reached the stage of having sex he doesn’t take me out. He after 2 years he finally baught me 2 bars of chocolate. His first gift to me. I don’t know what to do I feel like I pay for everything and he isn’t motivated to take me out for a date or anything anymore. He always comes up with some excuse and always – always tells me that he doesn’t like to plan things because it will always go wrong. If there’s something he wants to do he’ll do it but if I want something I don’t get it. And he’s really hard to talk to. I want to go and do something. I’ve said about laying a blanket in the garden and we can star gaze and he won’t even do that. 

Any advice on how to deal with this man of mine I would be grateful. If it was anyone else is say leave him, unfortunately I love him. I don’t know why but I do. I love the bones of him. But I still want more from him.

Post # 27
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Busy bee

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carys :  If it was anyone else is say leave him, unfortunately I love him.

That’s all well and good but sometimes love isn’t enough.  He sounds like a terrible partner bee, really think long and hard about the good aspects of your relationship. He won’t even hang in the garden with you! What do you do together?

Post # 28
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Wannabee

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whnlz :  we sometimes go for a drive. Usually we go to visit his sister and her family who lives nearby or his brother and his family who lives a bit further away, But that is all. I like to be out doors. But visiting his family all the time gets boring even though I do love them. But it’s like he puts them before me. I agree family comes first but sometimes I think to myself why can’t I come first sometimes? 

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I replied to the original poster not realizing that this is 100!years old 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My fiancé and I have a massive family and lots of friends which usually means a busy social calendar. A couple of months ago my fi suggested that we need to ensure that ‘we’ do something, just us at least once a month which we have stuck to. I couldn’t tell you if it was him or me who organises to be honest. Usually both. I think what you’re saying is that his effort seems to have dwindled? If so, I would plan some time just the two of you. Make a nice dinner, get some wine and have a lovely night and have a real frank chat. Tell him how much you miss ‘dates’ and how you would like to both make the effort to plan time together. What he does with that information is the real test   ! 

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