(Closed) How do you give guidelines for bridesmaids picking their own shoes?

posted 10 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: Are mismatched bridesmaids shoes in the same color okay?



  • Post # 3
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m doing the same thing.  Especially with long dresses, I don’t think you have anything to worry about.  The only guidelines I gave to my girls were that their shoes need to be silver and have a heel (no flats). 

    Post # 4
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My girls wore long dark plum/eggplant colored dresses. One of my girls can’t wear very high heels while one of the others wears nothing but super high heels.  I told them they could wear any shoes they wanted, as long as they were silver. It worked out really well and everyone was happy that they could pick what was best for them. When the dresses are long, no one’s going to really see the shoes anyway.

    Post # 5
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I told them to coordinate as they saw fit. I was more concerned that they would be comfortable and wouldn’t twist an ankle dancing later.

    Now, they are picking their own dress in a certain color scheme so matching is not a huge concern for me.

    Post # 6
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Their shoes will be so hard to see anyway under long dresses; I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you.

    I am having short dresses and letting them pick their own shoes; my only guideline is no flip-flops, not even the “dressy” kind with the wedge or little heels. NONE of my girls are really into wearing heels, and my wedding is in the grass, so I figure this will give them flexibility to find something they are comfortable in that will still be formal enough.

    Post # 7
    9050 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I had shorter dresses and just said that I wanted everybody to wear a black pump (preferably peep toe, but not essential).  One of my bridesmaids sent me this picture as the shoe she was planning to buy.

    I gently told her that I didn’t really think it would jive with the rest of the shoes, and ended up with the pic below on the day.  I think they did good!


    Post # 8
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Well, everything about my girls were mismatched. I told them I didn’t care what their shoes were. I didn’t even give them a color because I wanted them to be able to wear something they alraedy had, but after one girl bought her shoes the other decided to go with the same color anyway. I thought they looked beautiful. I don’t have any good pictures of their feet…

    Post # 9
    5493 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    this is what we’re doing. my girls have long dresses so i just told them to pick a gold formal shoe of their choice and just to run it by me first.  Some girls have super high ones and some have flats.

    Post # 11
    1077 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m just trusting they’ll wear something appropriate.  

    Post # 12
    7774 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I just told my girls to find black peep-toes.

    Post # 13
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My BMs also had long dresses, and I just told them to wear any silver shoes, whetehr they wanted to buy new ones or use ones they already had. I didn’t even look at the shoes before the wedding day; no one saw them so it didn’t matter at all.

    Post # 14
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My BMs had long dresses too and I told them to wear any summer-y silver dress shoe.  I don’t think anyone noticed they weren’t matching.

    Post # 15
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    They’re long dresses, so it doesn’t really matter. But even in short dresses, mismatched shoes are fine int he same color. Especially since they have to pay for the dress.

    Post # 16
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

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    @SapphireSun: lol that was nowhere near a black pump! Im glad it all worked out though 🙂

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