(Closed) How do you give yourself a reality check?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I realize that I am GETTING MARRIED and it will be wonderful no matter how much I might feel disenchanted or jealous. I know that’s not very helpful, but to me positive self-talk helps. haha.

Another thing is I’ll just put it out of my head and focus ENTIRELY on something else like cleaning, walking my dogs, doing a facial and bubble bath, something to make me feel better while not dwelling.

Post # 4
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Whenever I need a reality check I think about how other people perceive my actions/me and how I feel about myself. I’ve found the two don’t always match up and I strive to be the person I think I am.

 In your situation, I’d take a deep breath, laugh at my foolishness and have a glass of wine to chill out. I’d then secretly fantasize about their divorce for 30 seconds before stopping myself and wishing them the best in my head 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@AmeliaBedelia: I second your statement about just being happy about getting married and knowing it will be wonderful no matter what. I know when I was planning and would need a reality check, I would always spend some time with Darling Husband (then FI) just talking about non-wedding things and would come away from it feeling refreshed and like I had a handle on the things that really matter (like the marriage, not the wedding).

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just ignore everyone else’s ‘stuff’ for lack of a better word.  Everyone says you only get one day, but I see it more like your one day is the only day that’s gonna matters (to you) no matter what else is going on… from just everyday life to someone else getting married the month before.  Your day will be the only one you remember and look back on, nothing else matters.  Your ring bearer will still be yours, and you’ll probably never think about the fact that he wasnt in your wedding first in a litte while and espeically the day of or after your wedding.

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