- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I know that I need to give myself a reality check before I see this person. I’m hoping you all have a good way to do so :-).
I just found out my cousin proposed to his girlfriend today. They are planning on getting married about 6-8 weeks before ours. This cousin has been married before and his now-fiancee hasn’t exactly made the best impression. She can be nice sometimes, but it’s about one out of every 10 interactions. There have also been some family tension as a result of this.
Now, I know that I cannot claim the year as ours. Heck, I have a second cousin getting married three weeks before mine and I am okay with it. I got bummed out because they will use my other cousin’s (his sister’s) son as their ringbearer and I got really excited that our wedding would be the first one he’d be in. I’m not angry at them, because obviously, that’s his sister’s kid, and HELLO, I need to get my head out of my butt if I am angry because of that. I was just really excited for him to be in my wedding first, that’s all. Plus, the thing with struggling to find things I like about his now fiancee, and the attention being shifted to their wedding, it’s a hard pill to swallow.
I also know that I need to put on the big girl pants and face reality. It is not cool to act that way, and I don’t even know if the attention will be shifted away from mine. I also know that I can be a passive-aggressive person and I really, REALLY don’t want to come off as a Bridezilla. I know I will be seeing some of the family tomorrow, so I need some help as how to handle the situation. His fiancee never congratulated me on getting engaged, my cousin barely said congratulations, so I am not planning on bending over backwards for this one. Like I said, the biggest disappointment is honestly the ringbearer situation.
So, my question is, how do you give yourself a kick in the butt when you know you need it? Like I said, I know that my feelings are ridiculous, I just need some help changing these thoughts. Thanks!