(Closed) How do you go into a bridal shop without buying the dress you really love?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@g_g_dgjb:  it was simple for me…I would tell them I am not ready to commit and I wanted to try on other dresses so I could be sure.

Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think a lot of brides don’t buy their dress on the first try. I know I left mine at the store and came back another day, after I’d thought about it and was ready to commit. 

Post # 5
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Definitely tell them you’re just trying on!

Don’t tell them you’re planning on getting a dress somewhere else!

Post # 6
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Don’t say anything in the beginning.  When your appointment is near over tell them you have another appointment you need to keep.

Post # 7
105 posts
Blushing bee

haha, wow, I so hate it when this happens….

I work as a bridal consultant, so I get brides like you from time to time :-). 80% of people who tell me they are going to think about i’ll never see again.

I’m constantly in between opinions on this issue:

I do really feel this is very rude. You are wasting my time, you are messing with my chances to meet my sales goal, you are wasting my boss’ money and then you lie about it. It’s one thing to come in and not find your dress, it’s another thing to come in and KNOW you are not going to buy a dress.


I also truly love my job, I love helping people find their dream dress and at the end of the day I might have made you very happy. I know a big budget is not for every body and brides with a smaller budget also really really deserve to find the dress of their dreams.

So: yes, the only sulotion is to flat out lie to your bridal consultant and accept the fact that she is going to hate you a little when you walk out that door 🙂

Post # 8
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@LadyIrene:  Thank you for speaking up and being honest!  I too think it’s rude for brides to try on dresses in shops where they have no intention of buying.  Bridal salons are not showrooms for online designer knockoff shops.  

Post # 10
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Bring an assertive friend or relative with you to your appointment. They can pull you away if you feel yourself tempted to buy. My mother did that with me on my first dress shopping trip, and I am very glad she did! If I had bought a dress right then and there, I would have regretted it later. Having time to think about it helped me to decide which dress I really loved!


Post # 11
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Isn’t it possible that the sales person will convince you to buy something if the price is right? You might see a sample on sale there for an amazing price, for example, and wouldn’t you go ahead and get it then? 

For that reason, I would say that it’s not wrong to go to a bridal shop and look at some dresses. I always planned to get a replica dress. I went to a bridal shop to look at dresses and I saw one that I ended up liking enough that I would have bought it except that it was a clearance dress and they had already sold out of my size. I still kind of wish that I could find it in my size!

However, I do think it’s a bit unfair if you take up a ton of their time and effort, only to end up not buying anything – so I would say that if you do go, try to go when it’s not busy (like weekdays) and don’t make them show you a ton of different styles. And, yes, tell them that you’re not ready to commit but just want to see how things look. 

Post # 12
2087 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve gone into the same bridal store like 4 times… I’m not in a rush to buy my dress… And I’m enjoying the process of trying on different dresses and then if I find a dress I think is a contender, I go back to the original store and try on the dress I loved first again.  And I’m glad I’ve done this bc the dress I first tried on and thought I was going to buy is no longer the one I want.  So when I try on dresses, I just tell them my wedding is still really far away and I’m not ready to commit, but just trying to find the look I want

Post # 13
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

@LadyIrene:  Thank you for speaking up.  Very good points.  

Do you really see that few come back?   I think it’s bound to be a multiple visit prospect for me.  It’s a huge decision to make in just a few hours.  It’s expensive and it can have long-reaching repercussions.  I don’t buy anything expensive without going home and thinking about it.


Post # 14
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@g_g_dgjb:  No she doesn’t pay your bills, but people who browse, with no intention of buying a dress don’t help her pay her bills either.  Your bills and lifestyle have no bearing what so ever on the sales girl. 

That said, you certainly can shop, you may decide to buy a dress in a store because you find a great deal or just really really want it.  If you go in and are honest with what you are willing to spend you may surprise yourself and they may find you something terrific you didn’t know about or hadn’t considered.

Don’t kid yourself though, these are stores trying to sell things, not just a try on service so you can decide what you want and buy a knock off.  They are in the business to sell their dresses and make money, if they didn’t they wouldn’t exist. 

Post # 15
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You just have to go in there strong willed! My first visit the consultant tried every trick in the book to make me buy a dress that I loved. It was $100 over my budget. She even tried to talk me into getting a credit card to pay for it! At my next visit I ended up with a even more beautiful dress, designer brand and it was in my price range! Bottom line don’t let them sweep u up in wedding fever and have regret any decisions.

Post # 16
3300 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I went to the bridal salon with no real intention to buy for reasons that I didn’t feel compelled to share with the salesperson.  Also, my reasons had almost nothing to do with my budget.  I was literally moving abroad the next day and it was my one and only opportunity to try on my dream dress. And this was the only store in the tri-state area who carried a sample in my size. 


I did mention to her that I was just browsing and that my wedding was a ways off and I intended to “sleep on it” awhile before purchasing.   I did try on my dream dress and I did love it as expected and the sample price was actually very impressive. Half price!  I declined to buy it that day for logistical reasons (how will I transport it? where will I store it? Am I sure I’ll be able to get someone to alter it in my new country? etc), but it was not outside the realm of possibility. So, I considered myself a customer like any other: prepared to buy if possible, but not committed if not.


This was not a waste of anyone’s time or money. That’s why stores advertise. They surely do not expect that every person who enters the store is going to drop $2k before leaving.  Have you never strolled around a furniture store or a car dealership when you were still in the “looking” phase? Those sales people didn’t make any commission off you either.  I don’t see a huge difference.  It may be a little impolite or unprofessional to mention that you plan to have a knockoff made, but I don’t find it immoral, lol. 

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