Post # 1
I have a question – how do you greet your spouse at the end of the day?
My Darling Husband always comes to greet me at the door when I come in and gives me a kiss and starts to linger and talk as I’m putting my things away and taking my coat off. I like when he wants to to see me…but I don’t necessarily need him to do this.
I’m a person who prefers to come in first and then greet my Darling Husband, so in turn I don’t always go straight to the door when he comes home. I call out hi to him and then I give him a chance to settle in and then he comes to me and we have a kiss and chat.
But….he says that he’s always coming to me, and would like me to greet him right at the door when he comes in. But this feels, unnatural to me for some reason. I like to give people a chance to come in first. It’s totally with sweet intentions, he just is happy to see me and wants to feel like I’m happy to see him. I guess it doesn’t feel the same if I’m happy to see him once he’s actually in the house and comes to find me.
Of course I’m happy to see him, but I feel like I’m being made to feel like a bad wife just because I don’t run right to the door when he comes home.
So I’m just wondering what other bees do?
Post # 3
“What up bitch!” followed by a high five.
Post # 4
I greet my husband at the door always. We live in a one bedroom apartment and we don’t have kids. Everyone is different and expects different things, but by greeting my husband at the door (or in that area) and showing that I am stopping what I’m doing, getting up and making him important, that shows my respect and that nurtures our marriage. He does the same for me, just by the way.
Post # 5
Yell “Hi Babe!” If i’m not in the room. LOL
Post # 6
We always get up and greet each other at the door with a hug and quick kiss. Unless one of us is cooking, then we hug and kiss in the kitchen.
@star_dust: EXACTLY! I love that about my marriage as well 🙂
Post # 7
@deetroitwhat: That’s awesome. I’m trying this one tonight. LOL
@Sunshine09: We get up and greet each other right away, unless we are in the middle of something (e.g. I’m making dinner and my hands are dirty. In this instance, he’ll come to me.). Darling Husband loves these little rituals and if I deviate for no major reason, he gets upset.
Post # 9
@Sunshine09: It’s funny because I never thought of this, but I guess I’m a lot like you. Sometimes, I almost feel overwhelmed when I just get home from work and he comes and kisses and then starts talking about x,y,z… LOL. A lot of the time when he comes, I let him settle in before giving a kiss, etc.
Post # 10
Crap. I’m just soooooo independent. I like a lot of breathing room – especially after work. My Darling Husband is the best, maybe I just need to find my leave it to beaver gene. I know it must be in there somewhere.
Post # 11
We say “oh harro prease!”
Before anyone gets offended, my Fiance picked this up from the Southpark where Cartman and Butters pretend to be Asian. But my Fiance is Asian himself and thinks it’s hilarious.
Post # 13
I’m generally in the kitchen, so it’s usually “Hey, honey!” shouted across the house, followed by him putting his things down, and heading to the kitchen to give me a hug & kiss while I finish dinner. Then, I usually immediately pour him a glass of wine, and tell him to sit down and relax, ask about his day, etc. FWIW, I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom, so he’s always the one coming home to me.
Post # 14
@deetroitwhat: HA! My Darling Husband wouldn’t even think a thing of it…but I’m willing to give this a try.
@Pinkmoon: Welcome to shitty wok home of the shitty chicken. 😉
Well it is hard to greet my Darling Husband first and vice versa with our pups begging and screaming for attention. We always joke its the dogs first, then the bags down, then the kisses and hellos. We do acknowledge each other when we come home but it may take a moment or two before we physically see and/or greet each other.
If you Darling Husband needs a physical and immediate greeting then perhaps just try your best to accommodate him. There are worse things he could ask for and really it is a sweet guesture….just not always practical depending on what you have going on. Don’t feel like a bad wife!
Post # 15
@Treejewel19: thanks. It’s just me feeling that way, I know we just have different styles.
Post # 16
@deetroitwhat: seriously considering that for when he walks in tonight lol