How do you guys feel about bachelorette parties in gay clubs?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I’ve been to one at a gay club before and really, I didn’t see it as anything other than going to a strip club. Clubs are clubs and the strippers are there to make money and we were there for the experience/entertainment. It was a win-win,  the Strippers got money and we had a blast with lots of stories and memories.  I don’t see the problem with it. 

 

ETA: I’ve been to both gay clubs and strip clubs that were tailored more to the gay communityl. My stance stays the same,  clubs are there to make money. As long as the parties that go are paying customers,  I don’t see an issue.

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@BridieBea:  I have a lot of gay friends and used to go clubbing with them in my 20s. While the “excuses” you said are true (gay men were always very nice to me, the drinks are way stronger, the music is better and you don’t have to worry about getting raped), I know most of them were super annoyed when a bachelorette party would come through. It felt like the women were using my friends as “props” in their little party. Honestly, I felt like, even if I was still clubbing with them when I got engaged, I wouldn’t have my bachelorette at a gay club just because it’s always seemed like such a slap in the face to them. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BridieBea:  I think it depends on where you are from. Here in the NYC area there are actually gay/drag clubs that cater to bachelorette parties and stuff. I dont see why this bothers you. 

ETA: I dont go to LGBT clubs but I have gone to a drag queen one. However, I dont care what others choose to do.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

I guess can’t see the big deal. The people in it are not accessories. It’s just a bar like any other, that just happens to be more fun for certain occasions. It would make sense if the girls had friends there. 

 

Not personally doing that. I find bacholerette parties generally tacky & obnoxious to begin with, so I feel bad for whatever establishment they end up at. 

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@gelaine22:  Oh good point. Drag bars are really more “entertainment”. I assumed she was talking about just regular gay clubs, in which case it feels like you’re making the gay men there your “entertainment”, which seems kinda rude to me. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I would love to go to a gay club for a drag show for my bachelorette (not what I’m actually doing because none of my guy friends would go for it…), but I wouldn’t go on a “regular night”.  I’ve only heard of bachelorette parties going for drag shows.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@elysion:  Oh it definitely happens. I’ve seen the bride & guests get super drunk and start grinding on unsuspecting men. It’s like they assume everyone there is their personal stripper. Not that everyone would do that, but it does happen. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BridieBea:  Does that mean LGBT people cant go to “regular” clubs? or that guys shouldnt go to ladies night at a bar?

It just caters to a different crowd. Its not exclusionary. If people think its fun, I dont see why.  I have been to a few gay clubs with a few gay friends and they are a lot of fun. Many have shows and other entertainment that good ole “regular, straight” clubs dont have.

I can also see going to a gay club because the women feel safer there I suppose from a pick up scene stand point. The men wont be interested in them and they wont be interested in the women. 

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My gay guy friends hate it when bachelorette parties come to their favorite bars/clubs. It’s not that they mind if women are there (I go with them sometimes), it’s the fact that the girls are treating it like a party prop or a zoo with the cute gays on display that bothers them.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BridieBea: i work in a gay gym (i am a straight female) we discuss this all the time, the relationship between gay men and straight women. i think a lot of straight women USE gay men, not only for accessories or arm candy, but also as some sort of status symbol (look how open and fabulous i am with my GAY friends).  now for me, because i have a large circle of gay friends because of where i work, i usually end up at this places simply because i am out with my friends – what you said does tend to ring true to me. 

its a ‘safe space’ for straight females, where you don’t risk getting hit on by sleazebags all night, but  at the same time i don’t know if women really understand how the gay community often views them.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 also to note, i am referring to clubs that are, in fact, considered exclusively gay – straight people can obviously come, but i know my gay friends roll their eyes when bachelorette parties show up. its overkill to them, and i think they feel used.

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