How do you guys feel about open marriage/polygamy?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you ever seriously consider embarking in an open marriage?
    Yes- i would be completely comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others : (12 votes)
    3 %
    Yes- But I wouldn't want to know about the other people : (5 votes)
    1 %
    I would let my partner but I don't think I could : (2 votes)
    0 %
    No- I want my marriage to be between 2 people only : (329 votes)
    70 %
    No- I would doubt DH's/DW's love for me : (24 votes)
    5 %
    No- I'm not comfortable with polygamy : (79 votes)
    17 %
    I would be willing to try it out : (7 votes)
    1 %
    Yes/maybe - I would be somewhat comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others : (15 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I would never ever in a million years consider this as an option… ever.

    I think there are probably others who are all in favor of this sort of thing, and that is of course their business lol. (And I don’t need to know about it haha.)

    Post # 4
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    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m not for this at all. I love my man too much to share him, and I couldn’t be with anyone else, it just wouldn’t feel right.

    What other people decide for themselves is up to them. I wouldn’t pass judgement but don’t try and involve me in it. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    3774 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    Their is no way this would fly with me, or my husband for that matter.  But hey, whatever’s clever.  If people want to, what business is it of mine?

    Post # 6
    Member
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Not for me.

    Post # 7
    Member
    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I support polygamy, but only if ALL parties are okay with it. I myself couldn’t do it, I am too selfish and greedy with almost-husband. But I have no problem with other people doing it. One of my very dear college friends was in a very open relationship and tried to get me to date her husband. She goes, “He allows me to have a girlfriend, why can’t he have one too?”

    Post # 8
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    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It isn’t for us.

    As for other relationships….whatever floats your boat, or raises your sail? As long as it doesn’t effect my life/relationship, I don’t really care what people do in private.

    Post # 9
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    508 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m open to this type of relationship.  FI is not.  We’ve already discussed it and he wants our relationship to be between only the two of us on all levels, which includes sexually.  Because I love Fiance and my relationship with him, I’m more than willing to conform to this type of a relationship, however.

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    11166 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I don’t understand the point of a “marriage” if it is going to be open. Why commit to someone when you really aren’t committed in ever aspect, including sex?

    Open relationships are beyond me but if people choose to live that lifestyle more power to them, doesn’t bother me any…I just don’t understand the point of bringing the marriage committment into the equation.

     

    Post # 11
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Said it before, will say it again: getting married and sleeping with other people makes getting married imo so pointless. open relationship while unmarried, sure whatever.

    Post # 12
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    1357 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Well, polygamy and polyandry are illegal in the US and is generally only practiced by underground, splinter religious groups–so that option’s not even on the table, haha. Even if it was, I would never consider either that or an open marriage. There’s too many emotions wrapped up in sex, and I would be insanely jealous, it would complicate things, I would feel wrong having sex with anyone else. 

    That being said, I really don’t care what other people do in their own consenting relationships. It’s their business, and they can do whatever works for them.

    Post # 13
    Member
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Never, ever, ever.

    Post # 14
    Member
    508 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Treejewel19:  

    @strawbs:  

    You can be fully commited to a person while still having sex with other people (in a relationship in which both parties are on board with such things).  The two aren’t mutually exclusive.  Marriage also doesn’t mean exactly the same thing to every individual.  The definition of commitment may also differ.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Not a chance, ever.

    Post # 16
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    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No. I would not consider this. Is it okay for others to do this? Sure if it works for them and they are happy. That’s their relationship and their business.

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