(Closed) How do you guys feel about open marriage/polygamy?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you ever seriously consider embarking in an open marriage?

    Yes- i would be completely comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others

    Yes- But I wouldn't want to know about the other people

    I would let my partner but I don't think I could

    No- I want my marriage to be between 2 people only

    No- I would doubt DH's/DW's love for me

    No- I'm not comfortable with polygamy

    I would be willing to try it out

    Yes/maybe - I would be somewhat comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others

  • Post # 47
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Open marriage and polygamy are two very different things and it’s very silly to discuss them as if they were the same thing.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee

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    @Natalieh86:  Ha!  One day in the spring after painting the bottom of my FI’s boat I told him “If you get a bigger boat, you better get another girlfriend to help me”

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2006

    That is not my thing based on my religion, social culture and my beliefs.  I won’t even forgive my husband if he cheats, forget that open relationship…If they are commited to each other in a marriage, open relationship should not exist.

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2006

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    @Treejewel19:  I totally agree with you on this…:)

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Nah….if you want to sleep around why marry?? I dont know. Marriage is supposed to be with two people who love each other. If you love someone, wouldnt it hurt you if your spouse was sleeping around or vice versa?? 

    I dont understand the whole open marriage thing at all.  ??

    Post # 53
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @strawbs:  I didn’t need to hear your justification because I admit, I don’t care to.

    Uhm, okay? o.O Thought this was a discussion forum. No need to be like that.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @Treejewel19:   I can only answer for myself. In my culture, in my religion and in my general society marriage is a vow between two people in every sense including sexual acts.

    I can fly with that. Well said 🙂

    Post # 55
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Whatever floats your boat… I, However,  am NOT good at sharing. 😐

    Post # 56
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Not for me.  If other people want to do it, that’s their decision, however…  I think in many situations it’s not truly a voluntary choice.  I think that oftentimes, one party pressures the other to do it.  (This is why I think both people having the option of other partners is better than only one person, as in something like Sister Wives.  There’s no way you can persuade me that the first wife there really wanted to do this.  On )

    I took a law school class, where we discussed this topic at length.  The professor shared that midway through a debate in a prior year, one student spoke up and said, well I’m a fourth wife, and I’d never be able to leave my husband to attend law school if I was the only wife.  She was from another country.  Anyhow, there are benefits of it certainly in a shared partnership way, but I think the disadvantages – jealousy, sexually transmitted diseases, trust, etc. outweigh them.  That said, I appreciate it’s a free country here, so as long as they don’t get married to multiple partners, they are only hurting themselves.  (Note: I’m not getting into situations where people are forced, like child brides.  That’s considerably beyond the original question.)  I do agree that in some cases it may be genuinely work for them.

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @kay01:  I definitly think there is potential for one sidedness or abuse of power in relationships of this dynamic.  The Sisterwives, when they’re based in religious teaching, personally make me uncomfortable.  

    Post # 58
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Not acceptable for my marriage.  But hey, what other people do in their bedrooms (or other places) is fine by me as long it is consenting adults and that you don’t involve children or animals. 

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I am a monogamous girl, through and through. However, I don’t see anything wrong with open relationships. But I will echo previous posters and say that not only do I not agree with open marriages, I feel that people who enter into them are taking advantage of a system meant to benefit monogamous couples. It’s not that I hate or scorn people who are in open marriages. And, just to clarify, I think that cheating is much much worse. Maybe it is not as surprising, as it is more common, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t think it is an awful, horrible thing to do.

     

    Post # 60
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    NEVER!!!!! DH is MINEEEEE!!! lol

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It’s not something that’s for us but I’m respectful to others if this is how they live their life. Do people go into their married life with the idea that they will have an open marriage or decide after?

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