(Closed) How do you guys feel about open marriage/polygamy?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you ever seriously consider embarking in an open marriage?

    Yes- i would be completely comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others

    Yes- But I wouldn't want to know about the other people

    I would let my partner but I don't think I could

    No- I want my marriage to be between 2 people only

    No- I would doubt DH's/DW's love for me

    No- I'm not comfortable with polygamy

    I would be willing to try it out

    Yes/maybe - I would be somewhat comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others

  • Post # 77
    863 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Not for us at this time. Fine for other folks.

    Post # 78
    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not for me, but if other people want to do it, more power to them.

    Post # 79
    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Polyamory, for me, is been there, done that. I was non-monagmous for my twenties (in LTRs with guys, short term sexual relations with women).  I was ultimately unsatisfied on a deeper soul level. Glad I had all the experiences though!

    now I’m married, and my wife satisfies me on all levels, and I am happily monogamous for the first time. It’s amazing and I would never jeopardize our trust and relationship by suggesting a threesome or cheating. 

    Post # 80
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would totally and completely be 100% open to the open marriage.

    But it is all in the preference of the couple.  And I know that it will not work for everyone.



    Post # 81
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You need a poll option for “yes, I am in an open marriage”

    Post # 82
    8036 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @BridieBea:  Hell no. Then what’s the point of getting married?

    I’m way too jealous and it’s just not right in my opinion. Others can do it if they want… they’re not hurting anyone… but it’s just not for me.

    Post # 83
    6401 posts
    Bee Keeper

    For me, sex has no emotional attachment, evem with my OH/SO. So, I would be absolutely fine with an open relationship, though I would want certain rules eg condoms must be used, regular STD checks must be had, and it must be kept strictly physical, not emotional (for that reason I think that one-night stands, or swinging, would be better than have a f*ck buddy, for eg).

    My OH on the other hand doesn’t see sex as purely physical, and wouldn’t be happy to have an open relationship; so, unless he changes his mind, not going to happen lol.

    Post # 84
    1430 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I voted yes I would be fine with it, but that’s because my other half is bi and I am extremely attracted to bi guys. So as long as it’s other men, I’m fine with it. Women though would be a definite no.

    ETA: I do think once we have children though, I’d want a closed marriage. Just because I wouldn’t want any potential drama while we raised our children togehter.

    Post # 86
    11163 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

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    @Blush.Champagne:  Thanks very much. I tried to make my thoughts very clear without getting off track.


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    @Bebealways:  The thing is you shouldn’t be getting defensive for anyone because we can only define marriage for ourselves, not others. My thoughts on the matter have no bearing on your friend’s marriage just as your friend’s choice to be with multiple partners has no bearing on mine. As I clearly stated my definition of marriage is based on my life experiences and my surroundings. I’m not basing my answer to this question on how I would feel in my marriage based on the wants and needs of others.

    My question of “why get married” as I said above is more rhetorical because there is no right answer….there isn’t an answer at all that would satisfy the question. You have answered the question as you see it based on the additional benefits of marriage as you define marriage.

    Post # 87
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I am not willing to take part in an open marriage, and neither is FH. It is not for me; I don’t believe it’s right, and I’m glad FH feels the same.


    Post # 88
    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    No way I’d ever consider this. I deserve a man who loves only ME. I’m not willing to share.

    Post # 89
    2997 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I mean I could use some help around the house….

    Post # 90
    335 posts
    Helper bee

    I expect primacy (being number 1) and privacy (intimacy, as a couple, away from others) in my relationship.  If either of us are sleeping with another person, neither of those things are occurring.

    Post # 91
    2266 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    @Lily_of_the_valley:  LOL!!!

    Nope. I am too selfish. Mine mine mine.
    Of course, if your relationship thrives with that, then go for it. Who am I to judge? 

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