(Closed) How do you guys feel about open marriage/polygamy?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you ever seriously consider embarking in an open marriage?
    Yes- i would be completely comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others : (12 votes)
    2 %
    Yes- But I wouldn't want to know about the other people : (5 votes)
    1 %
    I would let my partner but I don't think I could : (2 votes)
    0 %
    No- I want my marriage to be between 2 people only : (338 votes)
    69 %
    No- I would doubt DH's/DW's love for me : (26 votes)
    5 %
    No- I'm not comfortable with polygamy : (81 votes)
    17 %
    I would be willing to try it out : (7 votes)
    1 %
    Yes/maybe - I would be somewhat comfortable with my partner sharing their sexuality with others : (17 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 107
    5022 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Nope. Not happening. Ever. 

    FH wouldn’t have it either. 

    Post # 108
    733 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would not even consider it. To me a physical relationship is a very intimate thing. I would not want myself or my Fiance to be that intimately close to another person while committed to each other. 

    Edit: I also just want to add a comment to all of the people who are implying you need to pick to have an open relationship or have your Fiance cheat on you. First of all, this sounds completely ridiculous to me and very pessimistic. Secondly, if these men are so willing to break the guidelines of a monogamous relationship then what makes you think they will follow the guidelines of an open relationship. If a guy is not trustworthy, then it doesn’t matter the type of relationship he is in. 

    Post # 109
    3140 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Nope, not for me at all. Though I am fine with other people in the world gabbing a relationship like that if all parties agreed and were comfortable. Just not me or my wife.

    Post # 110
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Heck no I would never be okay with this. It would be opening a can of worms I feel. Plus in our vows it says ‘forsaking all others.’

    Post # 111
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i know this is an old thread but i’m going to comment anyways. open relationships and polygamy (which are 2 different things) are not for me. i don’t care if other people want that. if it works for them, then cool. i’m not going to judge. i was super judgmental about polygamy until i started watching sister wives. it really made me realize that a) it’s none of my business what type of relationship other adults choose to be in and b) it works for some people and that’s ok. 

    Post # 112
    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would never, ever be open to an open marriage. I have too much self respect and I value monogamy. Plus, what’s the point of being in a relationship if you’re just going to act like a single person when it comes to your sex life?

    Post # 113
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    Not for me, but what others do in their marriages is none of my business. 

    Post # 114
    433 posts
    Helper bee


    That is a very strong assertion. Can you please list your sources? I do not judge your personal preferences, but I do not believe that the younger generation cheats more than previous generations. I think you are inferring a causality (young –> more and more frequent cheating) that is simply not there. I did a quick search for relevant, reliable sources, and was not able to find anything to support your claim.

    Post # 114
    20 posts

     Hubby and I are in a closed relationship with one other guy and two other women.  Girls are bi, guys are not. It’s a long story, but it’s been years and everyone is happy.  

    Post # 115
    554 posts
    Busy bee

    I have nothing against it for others, but I just was raised with monogamy so that is what works for us.

    Post # 116
    20 posts

    Treejewel19 :  ” I don’t understand the point of a “marriage” if it is going to be open. Why commit to someone when you really aren’t committed in ever aspect, including sex?”

    Because 1) I am bisexual, 2) both of us like some sexual practices that the other doesn’t, 3) variety is nice.  I mean, sometimes go to movies with other people, so why not? 

    Post # 117
    249 posts
    Helper bee

    Nope. Not for me. I met a couple that did this and it annoyed me only because you can’t be friends with ppl like this. Cause at one point or another they try to pull a move on you. Both the girl and the guy. They just struggle it seems to hold relationships up in general let alone their marriage. 

    Post # 118
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    BridieBea :  Nope!!!! Nope x’s 1000!! Marriage is a sacred union between TWO people…if you still want to fool around than I see absolutely no reason to get married…what’s the point? ESPECIALLY in this day and age with all the diseases floating around…..you never know what the other might bring home to you…nope! I can’t stress this enough NO!

    Post # 119
    9549 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Doesn’t bother me. There are different kinds of love and different kinds of marriage none is any better than the other.

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