Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
When I spoke to my SO last night and asked how he was doing he said he was in a grumpy mood. So we chatted for maybe 15 minutes and I told him it was fine if he wanted to go do his own thing and be on his own. He apologized but ultimately decided to keep to himself for the night.
It got me wondering how other people handle it when their partner is in a foul mood. I tend to give my SO space because that’s what I need when I’m in a foul mood. It has worked really well for us so far.
So when your partner is in a bad mood do you leave them to their grumpiness? Do you try to pull them out of it and cheer them up? How do they react/respond when you’re in a bad mood?
Post # 2
Usually I give him the space he needs. Like if his team loses and he’s “mad” grumpy. I’m out of the room or out of the house, depending upon the score. But if he’s “in the dumps” grumpy, I’ll sit with him, bring him a favorite snack, etc. so that he doesn’t feel alone even if he doesn’t want to talk about it.
Post # 3
I just walk away. I allow space and remove myself from the situation (but not in a grumpy way myself…in a very light and accepting kind of way) and then i wait until he’s past the grumpy mood, which i can usually tell is when he approaches me again. Once hes past the phase i ask what happened and let him know i wish he wouldnt be so hard on himself/ close off/ etc etc and then just move on from it 🙂
Post # 4
I ignore him. He usually acts very immature when he’s in a foul mood (and sometimes try to take it out on me) and I won’t stand for that. So I act like I don’t hear him or see him or I remove myself from the room completly. Thank God this doesn’t happen a lot.
When I’m in a foul mood I become very quiet and keep to myself. I don’t want to take it out on him or say something I’ll regret.
Post # 5
- Wedding: A restaurant on the beach
Nine years has taught me how to effectively deal with my SO’s bad moods. Its funny that I learned the most effective method from his mother- feed him. Nothing cheers my SO up faster than something yummy. It doesn’t matter if I cook it or run out to our favorite Korean BBQ place, food always turns his moods around. Sex works too. But if we can’t do either of those things he can usually cheer himself up by listening to music by himself for a couple hours.
Post # 6
I leave him to it.
When I’m grumpy I prefer to cuddle and talk to him so I tried to do the same thing when he was grumpy. Sometimes this would lead to fights because I didn’t understand that he would rather be alone when he’s grumpy. Once we finally ironed that out I learned to just leave him alone and he’ll come to me when he’s ready to talk or feeling better.
Post # 7
I’ll usually ask if he’s ok. If he says no, we’ll talk about whatever is bothering him and I’ll work from there. If he says he is fine, I’ll mention he seems kind of grumpy and ask if he wants space or to be doing something different. I think he is a lot like me in that he doesn’t always realize when he’s being a grouch or that if something is bothering him that he’s showing it.
Post # 8
hugs, reassurance, and trying to improve the situation
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario
My Fiance is rarely in a bad mood..but when he’s grumpy, tickling him does the trick. I don’t know why but it works.
Post # 10
Beer; Double Dog Double IPA
Post # 11
Ignore him. If he wants to talk to me about it, he’s more than welcome to. But I’m not one to pull teeth to figure out what’s wrong with someone. Either you want to talk about it, or you don’t.
Post # 12
Food, beer, sex, and talking!
Post # 13
My SO is never really grumpy…he honestly is always pretty calm and collected lol. If anything, I’m the pouty/grumpy one.
For me though, leaving me to my own devices can generally make things worse for me. So mainly lots of cuddling and comforting words bring me out of my funk… :3
Post # 14
I think I’m in the minority. Ain’t nobody got time for the grumps! Tickle fights and googling images of Pinterest fails or Dwight Shrute memes usually does the trick! Then again, we are goofballs so…
Post # 15
Usually if Fiance is in a grumpy mood I leave him alone to do as he pleases. When the grumpiness goes away or decreases we can talk, cuddle, what ever. Same with me. Usually I need to be left alone and once the majority of the grumpiness passes then I can be cheered up and want to cuddle and stuff. If he tries to cheer me up when I am really grumpy I get pissed off…