(Closed) How do you handle a grumpy partner?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
4235 posts
Honey bee

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Usually I give him the space he needs. Like if his team loses and he’s “mad” grumpy. I’m out of the room or out of the house, depending upon the score. But if he’s “in the dumps” grumpy, I’ll sit with him, bring him a favorite snack, etc. so that he doesn’t feel alone even if he doesn’t want to talk about it. 


Post # 3
183 posts
Blushing bee

I just walk away. I allow space and remove myself from the situation (but not in a grumpy way myself…in a very light and accepting kind of way) and then i wait until he’s past the grumpy mood, which i can usually tell is when he approaches me again. Once hes past the phase i ask what happened and let him know i wish he wouldnt be so hard on himself/ close off/ etc etc and then just move on from it 🙂

Post # 4
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I ignore him. He usually acts very immature when he’s in a foul mood (and sometimes try to take it out on me) and I won’t stand for that. So I act like I don’t hear him or see him or I remove myself from the room completly. Thank God this doesn’t happen a lot.

When I’m in a foul mood I become very quiet and keep to myself. I don’t want to take it out on him or say something I’ll regret.

Post # 5
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

Nine years has taught me how to effectively deal with my SO’s bad moods. Its funny that I learned the most effective method from his mother- feed him. Nothing cheers my SO up faster than something yummy. It doesn’t matter if I cook it or run out to our favorite Korean BBQ place, food always turns his moods around. Sex works too. But if we can’t do either of those things he can usually cheer himself up by listening to music by himself for a couple hours. 

Post # 6
7607 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I leave him to it.

When I’m grumpy I prefer to cuddle and talk to him so I tried to do the same thing when he was grumpy. Sometimes this would lead to fights because I didn’t understand that he would rather be alone when he’s grumpy. Once we finally ironed that out I learned to just leave him alone and he’ll come to me when he’s ready to talk or feeling better.

Post # 7
319 posts
Helper bee

I’ll usually ask if he’s ok. If he says no, we’ll talk about whatever is bothering him and I’ll work from there. If he says he is fine, I’ll mention he seems kind of grumpy and ask if he wants space or to be doing something different. I think he is a lot like me in that he doesn’t always realize when he’s being a grouch or that if something is bothering him that he’s showing it.

Post # 8
7892 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

hugs, reassurance, and trying to improve the situation

Post # 9
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario

My Fiance is rarely in a bad mood..but when he’s grumpy, tickling him does the trick. I don’t know why but it works.

Post # 11
4055 posts
Honey bee

Ignore him. If he wants to talk to me about it, he’s more than welcome to. But I’m not one to pull teeth to figure out what’s wrong with someone. Either you want to talk about it, or you don’t. 

Post # 12
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Food, beer, sex, and talking!

Post # 13
3029 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My SO is never really grumpy…he honestly is always pretty calm and collected lol. If anything, I’m the pouty/grumpy one.

For me though, leaving me to my own devices can generally make things worse for me. So mainly lots of cuddling and comforting words bring me out of my funk… :3

Post # 14
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I think I’m in the minority. Ain’t nobody got time for the grumps! Tickle fights and googling images of Pinterest fails or Dwight Shrute memes usually does the trick! Then again, we are goofballs so…

Post # 15
3899 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Usually if Fiance is in a grumpy mood I leave him alone to do as he pleases. When the grumpiness goes away or decreases we can talk, cuddle, what ever. Same with me. Usually I need to be left alone and once the majority of the grumpiness passes then I can be cheered up and want to cuddle and stuff. If he tries to cheer me up when I am really grumpy I get pissed off…

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