How do you handle busy periods in your life?

posted 2 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

You sound like us! My husband and I always say “we should do that the next weekend we have free” and then the other will say “So about May 2022?” We are super busy people in general. He is going back to school to get his MBA at night, I play various sports multiple times a week, add in family and friend get together’s and we are swamped! 

Right now we try to do a date night once a week. Usually Wednesday’s are open, so we consider that date night. We say no to everything else that night and sometimes we go out and sometimes we just cook a really good meal at home. Either way, the phones go off and we just get to enjoy each other’s company. We also try to sneak in the little times to spend together. Like we workout at the same gym in the mornings, or he will either sub on my volleyball team or come and watch me play if he is at home. Sometimes we just come home and sit on the patio for an hour after work and just talk before we go our separate ways! The key is to seriously focus on each other in those little snippets as we get them. To talk about what’s going on, check in on the marriage and just really enjoy each other. 

I will say the biggest pain when we are busy is keeping the house clean! He works from home a lot, and he is a huge help with laundry and dishes and stuff like that when he is home. I try to keep the clutter picked up in 5-15 min increments when I get home and before I go to bed, and then on the night that he has class I will deep clean one room in the house, just because we are so busy on the weekends! It’s been working out pretty good, since I started a month ago. Before that the house was a complete wreck! 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I feel this too! I got this text from my boyfriend this morning (we went out rock climbing last night and by the time we got home it was 1am. He has to work earlier than me):

“Hope this text wakes you up if you’re still sleeping.I had so much fun last night and I only wish we didn’t have to work today so we could have stayed up to drink beers, have sex and chat away. I love you.”

We have so many fun weekends booked with fun things, but they are often with our friends. Quality one on one time exists, but is definitely less than when we started dating. We’ll throw in errand running now (woohoo, quality time at Costco). 

He plays baseball three times a week, including every Sunday, so it’s hard to get a WHOLE weekend together. We love being outside, so we usually end up hiking or rock climbing on the Saturday. I am torn because I want a Saturday to lay in bed and just have sex and nap all afternoon, BUT THEN we miss out on a cool hike or rock climb.

I have no suggestions. We actually tried not to schedule anything for August and are going to try to take weekends as they come, but we just got invited to a cabin for the August long and said yes haha.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I was definitely like this in college. I was in school full time, worked a ton, babysat, interned and was on my exec board in college. Honestly I’m way less busy now than I was then!! 

Back then I just made time to spend just me and my boyfriend now husband. It’s great being married and living together so you don’t have to carve out as much time.

I do think it’s really important to take a short weekend trip or just relax the two of you when needed to rest and spend some quality time together. Everyone deserves a break!

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