Post # 1
Yesterday, one of DH’s co-workers sent out an email to their whole department saying that she was collecting money to purchase their bosses Christmas gifts. It’s not mandatory that they kick in but if they wanted to be acknowledged on the card, they’d have to. Darling Husband and I work for the same company (but different departments) and my side of the building has never done this. I always give my boss a little something but there is never an envelope floating around looking for donations. He and I were bitching about this on the way home from work yesterday since we feel it’s a bit ridiculous. His bosses make two to three times what he does, we get NOTHING for Christmas from our company yet they’re expected (ok, not expected but who wants to be the only person not on the card?!) to fork over their hard earned money to provide their bosses with an unnecessary Christmas gift.
Darling Husband kicked in $50 today and I can’t help but be annoyed. $50 isn’t a ton of money but that would have covered a gift card that we have to buy for one of our loved ones for Christmas. Instead it just went to some cheesy wine baskets for guys who could probably afford to buy their own wineries. It would be one thing if our company even made us feel worthy during the holiday season but we literally get jack shit from them.
So, how do you roll when it comes to gifting your boss? Do you give something small from just you? Kick in on a larger gift with your co-workers? Feel that you just showing up every day is enough of a gift for them?
Post # 3
wow! $50 is a lot! We all go in one big gift. This year the gift was a golf bag and we all had to pitch in $6. It’s mandotory for us too. I would be POed too!
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: This is my first time working at my place around Christmas time (was hired 1.5 months after). I probably wouldn’t give money though I appreciate all the hard work she does for us. I know there’s people who would make me feel guilty for this, but I have bills to pay and she’s making way more than I am. I think she’d understand.
Post # 5
I hardly spend $50 on my Darling Husband. yikes. I didn’t give mine gifts last year because I didn’t really know how they handled it and – they ended up giving gifts to each other, but not me. awkward turtle! Especially since they did it right in front of me.
This year I think I’m going to make a plate of cookies for both.
Post # 6
wow $50 is a lot for a work gift. I would be so irritated if I was made to feel like I had to buy my boss a gift. I like my boss just fine but I don’t feel compeled to get her something that she probably does not need and can buy a million times over.
To avoid this we do a white elephant gift exachange with everyone with a $25 limit.
Post # 7
I have long abided by the rule that you don’t mix your personal life with your work life. My boss is not my friend, we do not socialize outside of work. My boss does not buy me a present. I do not buy her a present.
I am a firm believer however, in thanking my boss when she does something I appreciate at the time she does it, just as I request timely acknowledgement from her.
We stopped doing a gift exchange at work years ago. None of us needs more gifts. Instead we put all that money to good use sponsoring several families for Christmas.
Post # 8
The bosses that I have liked and respected I will usually make a goodie basket for them, but at the same time, those same bosses have always been generous at the Holidays. My last “office” job, the boss took the whole section out to lunch (that had to cost a ton, there was alot of us) and he gifted each of us $100 gift card, all out of his own pocket. He also loved my goodie baskets ( I use those for alot of things) and would dig around in it to make sure his favorite peanut butter cookies were there. He was always tickled to death to go through his “stash” and don’t dare ask for anything out of it or you would get the death stare.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
Wow, I would feel SO WEIRD getting gifts from my employees (if I had any), especially if they contributed that much (even moreso if it were mandatory!). That is super weird.
I’ve always given my bosses small gifts, no more than $20 worth, but they have also always given me gifts (usually quite a bit nicer, but I’m poor!). My boss this year gave me an unexpected Thanksgiving gift (a bottle of vodka, sweet!!!), so I’m guessing we’ll do little Christmas gifts too.
Post # 10
he kicked in $50-wow! i dont give my boss a gift, he gives me a card with a hand written note (i still have last years as at the time his support and acknowledgment meant a lot to me) and thats it.
considering how much my bosses make (i do the payroll) i would be offended if i was sent an email asking for money for a gift for them and as the office lead i sure wouldnt put my employees in that position
Post # 11
$50 is a lot. I also find the group gift strange as well. I do buy my direct boss, my fellow manager and my employees small gifts as we’re a small company and and work and personal life is very blended. I buy them gifts becuase I WANT to and I want to give them something personal that they’ll enjoy. I can see a card that they all sign and maybe HR providing the bosses a gift basket, but yeah, I’m still reeling over a (pretty much) mandatory $50 donation. Wow.
Post # 12
When our department was small, me and another girl bought separate gifts for our manager. As the department got bigger, I told people that I plan to get the gift for the boss and if they a interested to pitch in. We usually get her something for Xmas, BOss’s day and Birthday.
In turn, whenever we have BD, she would get the person a card + balloons. We would all go to lunch and she pays for the Birthday person. She also brings us cake, cookies and ice-cream sometimes as well.
Post # 13
wow! Yea, I don’t get gifts. A couple of the ladies here will exchange with the other ladies, but the men really don’t get involved. I make a plate of cookies or rice crispie squares and put them in the kitchen for everyone to enjoy!
$50? Too much!
Post # 14
I should clarify. It was $50 total for 2 bosses, so $25 each. I’d kill him if he kicked in $100. I think $50 is bad enough.
I always bring something in for my boss and coworkers but its mostly baked stuff or some novelty thingamajig (one year I gave everyone a jelly bean pooping reindeer).
Post # 15
I’ve never not received a group gift from my employees. However, based on the gifts I would assume they each kicked in $5-10 a piece. However, I’ve always had a lot of staff members.
With that said, I have always given a New Years gift every year to each of them.
Post # 16
We all pitch in $5.00 from my department and buy her a gift card to The Keg!