(Closed) How do you handle grandparents who smoke around your babies?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee

For me, and I dont have a kid, if they smoke as long as they dont smoke near her.

If they smoke in their own home, the baby cant stay over. We all can visit, but not often because I cant stand smoke smell either.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I do not have a child yet either but we have already discussed this and it is a big no for us. My Mother-In-Law smokes as does her husband, they both like chain smoke. When we have kids we dont mind them being around our child as long as they are not smoking. And they almost always have their house open, so we would be ok to  bring our child over if the house was open and no one smoked around the child. But if it is a closed house absolutly not. Smoke gives me massive headaches so I don’t even go around it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had a beloved surrogate grandma when I was little who was a serious smoker.  (My maternal grandmother was dead before I was born, but this woman played the role of stand-in grandma.)  She didn’t smoke around us, which seemed to be good enough for my mom.  I should also add that my mom is just about as paranoid as they come as far as parents go, so usually I figure that if it was good enough for my mom, it’s good enough for just about anyone.  The only sad thing is that we lost our surrogate grandma to lung canger when I was only 10 years old.  I still miss her and wish she had been able to quit smoking. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I completey understand. I haven’t had the talk yet, but it is coming. Both my parents smoke and they would never smoke around the baby. However, I am going to have to ask them to also change their shirts when the baby is first born if they want to hold him. In one of our classes this past week they said one of the causes of SIDS has been linked to smoke residue. Now, why I am not one to believe everything I hear – I don’t want my precious baby around it. I am a first time mom and I will have enough paranoia already, this is one I will not deal with.

I will find a way to nicely tell my parents, but they will just need to respect our wishes as new parents. I am sure I will get the speech, “I raised you two kids just fine…….” BUT it is my child and my wishes. 🙂

Those are my thoughts. Good luck when you do cross this path.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom smokes, and I allow her to hold my son, play with him, cuddle with him. ot while smoking, and he doesn;t spend the night at her house, because they smoke indoors. But I don’t go overkill because of thrid hand smoke. I just think it would cause problems. Besides for the amount of time he spends in really close proximity it wouldn’t be worth bringing up anyways.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Honestly, I wouldn’t be around them too often due to my asthma. I remember my grandparents smoking when I was little. They would go outside and/or go to another room and blow the smoke out the window. They never did it in front of us. My other set of grandparents wouldn’t stop smoking if we were in the house (they knew I had asthma). So, my parents stop taking us there to visit. If we did visit it was short because they didn’t want to risk our health for them. 

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