Post # 1
Just as the title says…I’m really starting to think this is the secret to a long lasting marriage, is letting *these* kinds of moments go….I’m talking about those moments when he says or does something just stupid enough where if you said something back it would surely turn into a fight, but not big enough where it actually makes a difference in the big picture.
What do you do? Sometimes I close my eyes and think ‘I better be getting karma points for letting this go” or something like that. Other times I’ll smile a fake smile and pull the ‘yup you’re right.’ (even though he’s not)
Do you have a trick to letting these moments go?
Post # 2
sarcasm. lots and lots of sarcasm. It’s a way for me to respond without it being taken seriously.
Post # 3
For me? Laughter. And patience.
I’ve been known to mimic, “Aasss yyooouuu wwiiissshhh!” on occasion.
Post # 4
I usually just stare and blink a few times so that he has time to consider his statement before I say something. He usually thinks through it and corrects himself before I do!
Post # 5
I roll my eyes, make an exasperated noise and leave the room.
Post # 6
Unfortunately my mother is the master of it and I picked up here tricks.. I can’t even help it most of the time.
Post # 7
1. laugh at him or tease him in a nice way
3. explain why what he just said was ridiculous
4. ask him to think about what he just said
5. pretend that what he said wasn’t stupid
#5 is definitely the best for our marriage. When I do #2 or #3, it hurts his feelings or makes him mad, which is NOT good for our marriage. Sometimes #1 gets us both laughing but that sometimes bums him out, too. #4 makes him feel patronized so I wouldn’t recommend that one, either. Hmm, it seems my husband says dumb stuff a lot….
Post # 8
I honestly can’t think of the last time my fiance said or did something stupid…
Post # 9
Either wait for him to realise it was uncalled for OR let it go by reminding myself of how much I love him and how amazing he is 99 percent of the time. Also he equally forgives me with great love and patience when I act like a spoilt brat.
Post # 10
princessandthepear: Lucky you!! We adore each other but we are most certainly not tiff free!
Post # 11
Ask him how he reacts when you do something or say something stupid. Then do that.
Post # 12
Guess I’m lucky my husband is smart.
Post # 13
Either I stand there looking smug and say “Go ahead” or he says “are you cracked?” If someone is getting pissy we hoot at each other in a sarcastic manner that instantly leaves the other one looking like an over reactive goof. Like WHOOOOO!!! Then call each other names like “little grumpy tits”. This is generally followed by poking/ tickling / wedgies and blowing raspberries on the neck.
eTA on the off chance someone said something unintentionally rude we apologize right away. Usually “sorry for being a dick”.
Post # 14
I try to remember that I’m not perfect either and to accept him the way he accepts me
Post # 15
Yipeebee: I didn’t mean we never fight, just not over him doing ‘stupid’ things. I would say 90% of our fights are due to me being a hormonal brat, not because he did anything wrong. He reacts to me being a brat by either feeding me (ever see that snickers commercial? that’s totally me) or asking if I’m getting my exclamation point soon. (inside joke because I become very expressive!!! during that time of the month)