(Closed) How do you handle rude questions about your pregnancy?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

From a family member or friend I wouldnt consider those questions rude, just curious about your decisions and interested in the pregnancy enough to ask.

Rude to me would be “Geeez, your huge, did you mean to get so fat?”

If you are not comfortable answering I would divert the question with “I do plan to keep working (no need to say why) and I am excited to have some time off after the pregnancy to spend time with LO”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

dbl

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t consider these questions rude either, especially from family or friends. Since they did make you uncomfortable you could have just said that you haven’t decided yet or something along those lines.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with ThreeMeers in that I don’t think that it was that rude a question.  When I was pregnant I had people that were not related to me ask me the same thing.  I think those questions come up with the territory.

Eh, if your husband’s BIL is always so hung up on money, then that’s even more reason not to give it a second thought.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@ThreeMeers:  Ditto. I would say that’s a pretty standard question.

I’ve gotten questions like “Dang, your boobs are huge! What bra size are you now that you’re pregnant?!” Things like that I consider rude. I used to smile but silently stab them to death in my imagination…Now I pretty much fight fire with fire and call them out on being rude and inappropriate. Especially if they make a weird comment AND touch my belly.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think those are OK questions from family!  But you still have to be true to yourself…answer whatever you feel comfortable answering.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Mrs.D:  I think it seems more like that’s not something you would typically discuss, not so much a pregnancy question.  Personally, I hear a lot of people ask women what their work’s maternity leave policy is.  I don’t think that’s a personal question.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I always had my mum around when I was growing up and we have a real special bond.  I want to be the person that is there for all the firsts and I want to be the person to help with homework problems.  I want to be a mother to my children.

I completely understand that not everyone is in the same situation as we are and I also understand that having only one income is not so easy, we are very fortunate to be able to do this, Oh doesnt earn a fortune but he is very (very) good with what he has!

I do however feel my brain cells dying off through lack of stimulation.  Our baby starts nursery in September so I will be going back (part time) then.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My whole post just got lost!

Maybe this guy is just inquisitive.  Many companies do NOT offer paid leave for maternity leave.  It is considered a benefit and therefore does not legally need to be offered by a company.

Is this guy married?  Is he planning on having kids someday?

If someone asks, you don’t have to answer directly.  Maybe I’m just more easy going and was not offended by such a question (and yes, I was asked the same thing by friends and family when I was pregnant).

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