(Closed) How Do You Handle Someone Who Constantly Talks About Themselves?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Most of my friends are like this.. I’m a Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding this July. She always comes to town and we do her wedding stuff, but I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and she doesn’t have “time” for my wedding right now. I just learned to let others talk about their lives and stick with the friends who I can be happy with. I have a hard time telling people off especially when I think they need to shut up and let me talk for a bit lol. I think you should just listen to her but you dont really need to give your input, she probably just likes to her her self talk, or type rather :p

(EDIT) I dont know why my post wouldnt add the full text, hopefully it shows up this time lol

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

You Should tell her you dont have time to chat but she should update you on her life and youll get back to her lol, make it short and sweet basically.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lovelylight99:  Oy! I know a girl like this, and the only reason I’m associated with her is because her bf is FI’s best friend as well. All she ever talks about is herself and her relationship and frankly I think she’s just looking for validation because their whole relationship seems like a farce to me. But I just purposely don’t go out of my way to talk to her. I don’t consider her a friend, so I don’t feel the need to reach out to her. And when it comes to facebook I always make sure I’m logged out of that chat thing because I hate small talk! I rarely go on there anyway so if she happens to send me something I can always use that as an excuse. I don’t know if I helped any but you’re not alone with this! Lol.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Lol, I dont even open some peoples messages, so they see that I haven’t “seen” it yet. Luckily I had to change my number recently only texted people I like :p so I get alot of HEY WHATS YOUR #??? umm no I already have to avoid you on FB I don’t need you blowing up my phone!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have a friend like this and she has no idea she is doing it. To get her to realize its happening I give her only one or two word responses for the ENTIRE conversation.

“Yep.”
“That’s awesome.”
“No.”
“Interesting.”

She get ths hint and either leaves me alone or is finally understanding how droll it is to have a one-sided conversation.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I’ve had friends like that. They ask how I am, then I start answering them…then they interrupt and start talking about themselves.  I’ve gotten to the point to where I’ve had enough. I get interrupted from my kids, I don’t want interrupted from an adult during an adult conversation. I just end up stop talking to them all together or they just become aquaintances.  That’s a pet peeve of mine

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you actually use your FB chat? I just turn mine off so people can’t tell when I’m online.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Wonderstruck:  Yes this! I hate FB chat, especially because the people who message me are people I don’t want to talk to! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This made me laugh. I have a friend like this. She was using all of us as her free therapists- and she actually WAS seeing a therapist!! She always had a crisis going on and she always felt slighted. One time she threw a fit and said we were all bad friends because one friend threw a surprise party for another and she wasnt in on the surprise. Actually it was a reverse surprise party- one friend was overseas and came back to visit as a surprise with assistance of one friend. She wasnt the friend so she concluded we all knew and kept it from her. Some people are just exhausting. She is not close to anyone in our circle anymore.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

you can make certain groups of people on facebook that are permanently “invisible” in chat. I do this to the occasional person that feels compelled to message me every time I’m online, hahah. Sometimes I just like leaving facebook open in the background, I don’t want to talk to you!!

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