How do you handle the fear?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sometimes the only way to get through is to get through, one foot in front of the other. It helped me to remember that I didn’t know what a successful pregnancy felt like, since I attributed every twinge o an impending mc. Even after Dear Daughter was born healthy, I still have lots of fear since 4/5 of my previous pregnancies ended prematurely.

I ended up doing Hypnobirthing with Dear Daughter and the meditations were priceless for me. They basically say that the baby and my body know what they’re doing. Even if you don’t  do the classes, check out gentle births/gentle birth meditations on YouTube. They helped me to finallybond with Dear Daughter before she was born.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

1) Fetal doppler.  

2)  This collection of essays & prayers for each week of a pregnancy following a loss.  (Geared toward Christians, but probably could easily be modified for other religions.)

http://rainbowsandredemption.weebly.com/

3) Finding out what annoyed my baby later on in the pregnancy to get her to move around.  (4th grade band concerts are fantastic…)

Post # 34
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Blushing bee

For me, I try and take it one day at a time. I am just about 20w now and I have had an ectopic, a CP, and a MC within the past 18months. Fear kept us from telling anyone until 13w, even though I had an early U/S at 7w, and the 12 week one also went well. It hasn’t really gone away for me, I have just been doing a day at a time and trying to keep busy to keep my thoughts from going there. Best of luck!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Lots of hugs to you. We had a MMC after a year of trying, then conceived a successful pregnancy after 16 cycles. I felt like the fear came in waves… I thought I’d feel better after seeing the heartbeat, and I did for a few days, then the fear came back. Then I thought I’d feel better after 12 weeks, and I did for a few days, etc… Once he started moving consistently and I got past viability I did feel mostly confident. Take it day by day and lean on your husband for support. Congratulations!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

Hey love, I’m right there with you. I feel so guilty because so many people want so badly to be pregnant, and while I’m super happy to be, I just can’t get excited about things since I’m so sure this one will end as the others have. Did you feel any better after your first scan?

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We got pregnant after two hard years of TTC and lost the baby after seeing the heartbeat, it was hard. We were lucky enough to get pregnant again a few months later – something I never thought would happen despite taking the steps to do so.  I’ll admit we have both been in a little bit of denial throughout this pregnancy, we aren’t taking anything for granted.  I think as I hit 24 weeks and then 28 weeks it will start to feel more real. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

happy2bee :  We did see a heartbeat but it was quite slow for how far along I was and I knew that it was like a 99.9% chance that we would lose the babe.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

happy2bee :  That’s fantastic! I’m so happy for you guys. What day is your scan? 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

happy2bee :  I’ll be thinking of you guys! Hopefully the 8th comes quickly. 

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