Post # 1
” Identify” not as in you ‘have’ to put yourself in a box, more as in do you recognize yourself somewhere in the spectrum ( totally straight, totally gay, somewhere in between) or you simply don’t have a set answer / don’t care ?
I am definitely a heteroromantic. I do believe in falling for people not genders and I believe in life’s ability to surprise us but I have enough empirical evidence about myself to know that I don’t really see women like that and don’t think it will happen now that I am married. Though here’s a fun fact. My husband’s brother is married to a man and had also been engaged to a woman before 🙂
Sexually, I guess I am what the kids today call “heteroflexible” ? I have mostly been interested in men but have had a few experiences with women when the situation presented itself ( group sex, making out). Never really went actively after it but was always open to a hot scenario / context that would include a girl. So I am whatever you call this. My experiences taught me that I love sex with men more but women can be awesome kissers lol.
Do you have a general answer about yourself?
Post # 2
I lean very heavily hetero. I’ve never been attracted to women in either a romantic or sexual way (not for lack of opportunity), nor do I foresee it happening in the future.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
marylen : I’ve never heard the term “heteroromantic” or “heteroflexible”, can you please explain what this means to you? Is this similar to being bi-curious or something different?
I personally identify as bisexual. I have always had crushes on women and have had some positive sexual experiences with women, however I’ve never been in a relationship with a woman. On the bisexual spectrum I guess, I definitely pursue men more than I pursue women.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
I’m an heterosexual. Even the thought of sexual experience with a female makes me uncomfortable.
Post # 5
I identify as pretty heavily straight, but not so much that I view a same-sex relationship as impossible, if that makes sense. I’ve only dated men, and I’m happily engaged to a man that I hope to grow old and gross with, monogamously. But if I were to ever end up single again, or on a desert island somewhere, I can’t say for sure that I wouldn’t end up with a woman. I don’t know that I’d purposely seek it out, but if the right person came along and they happened to be a woman, then sure.
Post # 6
I would say I am exclusively sexually and romantically interested in women, however, in the past I have had some level of romantic interest in men (although this may be due to denial and pressure I was putting on myself to not be gay). Since I’ve accepted I’m gay and dated women (I’m engaged to a woman) I have had 0 sexual or romantic interest in men and could never see myself having any sexual contact or relationships with men again.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2021 - City, State
I am straight, but it is surprising that a lot of people don’t believe that because I am disabled or assume that I don’t even want sex or anything like that. Not everyone who is disabled is asexual and the people who are asexual and disabled are asexual not because of disability, heck, how asexual people feel about sex varies some are repulsed and some are indifferent and just because you are asexual doesn’t mean you can’t have sex or are not into romance or aren’t kinky, BDSM doesn’t always have to include sex after all.
Post # 8
I’m pansexual but I lean more towards preferring women rather than men. That said I’m currently with a man and very happy my decisions in life are always people based rather than gender based. I just have always preferred women aesthetically. I’ve always known I’ve liked women though and told my mum when I was a young kid that I had a crush on a girl in class. She was perfectly fine with that (thankfully)
Post # 9
marylen : I am heterosexual. However, I have always viewed sexual orientation as a spectrum and I believe it is entirely possible for people on either end of the spectrum to find people attractive who aren’t their typical “type”. When I was single I never discounted the possibility that I may one day find myself attracted to a woman the way I am typically attracted to men.
Post # 10
missmollybee : The terms are mostly used to separate sexual and romantic attraction ( again all this is might mean something or nothing at all depending on the individual) . For me, it means I might be attracted or open to play with both men and women but don’t really see myself falling in love with a woman or wanting a relationship with one.
They are not only used for women who are considered to be more likely to be open to “experimenting” than men. My former boss was a guy who considered himself bisexual and was casually dating and sleeping with both men and women but he only had serious relationships with women. Not because he was not open to giving a chance to a guy ( he tried) but his emotional needs could only be covered in a relationship with a woman.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
marylen : Gotcha. That is actually the definition of bi-curious if I’m not mistaken, but I’ve never heard the differentiating of sex and romance feelings within that. Very complex indeed. Thanks for clarifying!
Post # 12
I am heterosexual and only attracted to men. I have never, and will never be physically or romantically attracted to another female.