- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
This is sort of a two-parter, so forgive me if it’s a little long.
Question 1 (general): How do you introduce or identify yourself, as relates to your occupation (“Hi my name is _____ and I’m a ______”)? Do you like how others introduce you (“This is _____ and she’s a ______”)? Why or why not?
I’m having trouble with this, since my job situation isn’t straightforward and I don’t have just one single title to use. I’ve been unemployed for a while, but in public settings I always identified myself as a freelance writer. It’s true, and I’m also working on more publications and another book, so sometimes “writer” would work. I changed it depending on the setting.
But now, I’m back to tutoring ESL students (community college level) which is what I love to do. It isn’t full-time, and I get really funny looks when I just say “tutor” or “ESL tutor.” I’m proud of what I do — and it’s a strong academic position! — but I can’t stand the negative reactions.
To cap it all off, I just accepted a summer-only position that is full-time and includes the word “Director” in the title. But it’s only for the summer (camp) and I’ll still be tutoring and maybe running workshops for the college in the evenings.
Which leads me to…
Question 2 (personal): How should I identify or asked to be identified? I’m pretty sure “Hi, I’m BostonBaby, and I’m a novelist, freelance writer, ESL tutor, and Director of Music & Drama for a summer camp” sounds pretty ridiculous, so I need an alternative.
Feel free to remind me that I’m a little crazy and shouldn’t be so concerned with my job title or let it define me. But I interact frequently with people to whom appearance and title is everything, and I’m tired of feeling degraded when in fact I have the degree, experience, and occupation(s) to match most of them! My husband is very into his job, and people are so fascinated by him, so maybe it’s all a little bit of envy.