(Closed) How do you invite someone without a +1 option?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

When it comes to spouses – as in the couple is married, i’m pretty sure you have to invite the spouse as well.

Well – let me rephrase that. It’s your wedding, you can do whatever.. but just remember that some of them might not show because you are making them choose your wedding, or their spouse [and in most cases, their spouse will win], and you could have alot of other angry guests as well.

Post # 4
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2287 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

It it’s their husband or wife or partner of many years then it is extremely rude not to invite them and very likely they won’t come without them. Otherwise write “we have reserved one seat in your honor” on the rsvp card. 

Post # 5
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It is extremely rude to not invite someone’s spouse.

If you are going to do it anyway, then yes, you would just address the invitation to them alone. And be prepared for some awkward conversations. If you REALLY feel like you have to do this, then I would have the conversation before you send the invitation. If you don’t think they’re going to be offended, then they won’t mind hearing it from you ahead of time, right?

It’s not about their spouses’ opinions. It’s about THEIR opinions. And since you “cherish” those people, you should really consider their feelings when making the decision. Even if you ask them and say “Oh, it’s okay if you have to,” it’s only because they are being polite. If you value these relationships, show them the respect of inviting their spouse.

Rude. One of the rudest things you can do on your guest list, in my opinion.

Post # 6
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882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What? Not invite a spouse? I have never heard of that. It’s not a work function, it’s a wedding, you really should invite ALL married couples, engaged couples, as well as couples who live together.

It would be really, really bad form to only invite half of the couples I mentioned above. How “key” are these people to you and your Fiance if you don’t know their spouse anyway?! 

If I was invited to a wedding without my husband, I certainly wouldn’t even think of attending. 

Post # 8
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@TaurianDoll:  Good decision Smile I know it is tough, you don’t want to end up with too many people or too few people! Navigating the guest list is definitely one of the trickier parts of wedding planning.

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