Post # 1
Lately I just feel so overwhelmed by the entire wedding planning process. Every time I get another quote in I just think this is going to be so expensive. Thankfully my parents are paying for the wedding, and I’m not renting anything extravagant, but it just feels so expensive. How are ya’ll staying grounded and not getting overwhelmed by all the expense and details? Any advice is really welcomed.
Post # 3
Shop around and figure out what is really important to you. My parents are paying but also gave us budgets.
For me decor and good/ “normal” good was must haves for us
Photog we really just wanted some one good but nothing over the top I ended up finding out photog on CL for $400 including a disc.
DJ- we went with some one who were heard amazing reviews about but he was way more then I wanted to spend. I told him that and he went down 30%!
Invites- I put a request on etsy and they ended up being under $2 each and were so amazing! better than ones ive seen for $5 each!
Sometimes if I get too stressed out I take a few days off.
The best thing I can tell you is to get as many things done now as you can. so the month before the wedding you wont have a lot to do!
Post # 4
Sorry you are feeling overwhelmed – it’s easy to feel that way!
I like to break all my tasks and expenses down, and only deal with 1-2 at a time. I keep a master “To Do” list, but I try not to look at it (read: obsess over it!) too much.
Instead of “zomg!!!!!! I have a million things to do!!!!!”, it’s more like “ok, today and tomorrow are dedicated to just making programs”. Breaking things down into bite-size bits seems to work for me.
There have only been a few times so far when I’ve felt completely overwhelmed, and it was when I started to think of every single little detail that I had to do. Being proactive also eases my anxiety. If I’m feeling anxious/overwhelmed, I’ll get to work on a project.
Sometimes stepping away for a day (or a week, if you have time), seems to help also.
Post # 5
Decide on an overall price you’re comfortable with and budget stuff out. then you can just focus on over or under budget and not “holy crap i just spent x on CAKE” 🙂
Post # 6
Ummm, I don’t? I’m horribly overwhelmed and I don’t know how to snap out of it!
Post # 8
-spend a lot of time on WB venting about! :o)
But seriously, look into hiring a wedding planner or coordinator at this point. It may seem like another service/vendor to add, but mine was invaluable in the process and i was able to get a very experienced opinion on all my decisions and budget concerns–i constantly would bounce questions about ‘is this vendor charging too much? how can we stretch the budget here more efficiently?’ etc. Plus, having her coordinate with all the vendors relieved me a TON of stress. I highly recommend it!
Post # 9
@absolutbettie: How much does a wedding planner cost?
Post # 10
@kahbooom — it totally depends on your area and what kind of services you’re looking for (full wedding planning, Month of/Day of Coordination, etc.). You can probably find women who are just starting in the business who will do it for free to build up their portfolios or charge as little as $250-500 for DOC if they are still new to the business. Def check Craigslist, TheKnot local boards and here.
I live in NYC but my wedding was being planned for my hometown in the midwest. I wanted to do all the fun stuff like choose my own vendors and pick out all the details. But needed someone on the ground there to put it all together, meet and call vendors when I couldn’t be there, schedule a timeline for them–basically someone to execute all the nitty gritty to make it all come together. (I also got the feeling that vendors took her more seriously and worked more efficiently when she handled the conversations since she knew what questions to ask and what needed to be done.) She was one of the most old-school and experienced planners in the area and charged $60/hour. And let me tell you–BEST MONEY SPENT! Hands down, I don’t know how I could’ve pulled off the wedding I wanted without her!