- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Hi bees, So I need some advice about NOT stressing out! It seems that every detail about my engagement party and bridal shower and wedding is STRESSING me out until I can get it resolved and a decision made! It’s really starting to take a toll on me.. I’m having trouble sleeping and concentrating on things that aren’t wedding related! I have 8 months to go and am only 4 months into my engagement, so I know if I don’t get this under control it’s going to be 100x worse over the next few months and closer to the wedding! I am a perfectionist and detailed oriented, which are okay things for every day life, NOT great when trying to calmy and pleasantly plan a wedding. My mom is the complete opposite of me and is very “go with the flow” so when I am venting or stressing about something to her, she constantly says “stop stressing, you’re going to give yourself an ulcer!”. I don’t have time for an ulcer!! (j/k- but really, I don’t). I know I still have just under 8 months but to me the sooner I get everything done, the more I CAN relax and enjoy the months up until the wedding. My sister, who is my MoH, is really just it by name (she lives out of state and we have never really been that close, she is my MoH soley b/c she is my sister) so I don’t expect her to do anything for the wedding (she’s 18- totally uninterested and absorbed with her own life) but that means that that’s more to fall on me. I even worry about what my sister is going to wear to my engagement party- like I said, she’s 18, and dresses very inappropriately. I worry that she’s going to wear something outlandish and my FH’s entire extended family will be there, as well as friends. But forget mentioning anything about her outfit if you don’t want WWIII to start! And it’s something that I can’t control and really has no relation to me and my taste or the way I present myself. See- EVERY detail is making me stress! My other 2 BM’s are being super helpful and supportive, but being a perfectionist is a negative here because most of the time it’s just easier for me to do the task and make sure it’s done the way I picture it than to try to delegate it out to someone else. FH thinks that the wedding fairy will come by any day now and everything will magically happen on November 19th (he doesn’t realize I’M the wedding fairy 😉 I’m also the type of person that when a task does come up, I would totally rather just sit down and figure it out right then, rather than just making it another thing on the to-do list and revisiting it later.
So, sorry for the unplanned vent session, but any advice on what to do when I get super stressed and overwhelmed about EVERY DETAIL? I’ve tried getting a pedicure- I’m on my iPhone the whole time either researching different wedding details or calling vendors to ask questions, etc. FH and I are going on a wedding-free weekend getaway in a few weeks, so hopefully that will help. But no matter what we do, my wedding to-do list is always in the back of my mind. AHH!
Thanks for any and all suggesitons, advice, similar situations, etc! 🙂