Post # 1
I just took a home pregnancy test and it was POSITIVE. ahhhhhh. I’m really excited, but also really scared (I drank several glasses of wine last weekend at my friend’s wedding bc I thought I had started my period, I haven’t been eating well because I have been traveling a lot for work, etc.). So, I don’t want to tell anyone yet (other than my DH – I shoved that positive pregnancy test in his face while he shaved).
I am curious though – HOW do you not tell people? I have a big family dinner tonight (where everyone usually drinks wine), a bachelorette party tomorrow, a dinner with my husband’s boss on Sunday (where we usually drink expensive wine), etc. We go out A LOT and we are very into fancy wine so people will notice if I don’t drink. How did you handle this??
Sorry if this is incoherent – I’m still shaking a bit since I JUST took the test…
Post # 3
You could say you started a diet or that you have to take some meds that prevent you from drinking.
Or, have wine in you glass, take a few “fake sips”, then when no one notices, switch with your husband when he has less, and have him drink your glass. Very slowly, so that you don’t get any refills.
Post # 4
“I’m on antibiotics.” Done! 🙂
Post # 5
Antibiotics yes, as well as ordering virgin drinks in the places where you can. I also make my FI not drink as much (just out of fairness) so it looks like we are both cutting back and not just one of us. Some ppl do feel comfortable indulging in a glass of wine from time to time so maybe you can order a glass and sip lightly or dont sip at all lol. Plus as you get more into your first trimester some food and drinks(even nonalcoholic) will not be appetizing so you can always go with the not in the mood excuse.
Ive been successful not telling people, Im not going to say that people don’t also suspect that I am pregnant. But most people are poliet and they dont ask for fear of offending!
Post # 6
First, YEA! Congrats! Second, I’d try not to worry about your past drinking since you can’t do anything about it now (may be easier said than done). And, third, I found it super hard to not tell immediately after we found out. It has seemed to get easier since (you know, over this whopping 1 month of knowing). I think the hardest this is exactly what you’re worried about. Suddenly NOT drinking. I’d go with lying. 🙂 Maybe you’re on a medication that doesn’t allow alcohol. Or ordering a faux mixed drink at the bar when no one from your party is around. It will be interesting to read if others have better ideas.
Post # 7
Congratulations!! Yay for another February baby (assuming that’s when you’re due)!
People sure don’t make it easy to hide, scrutinizing your every (in)action for possible pregnancy, huh? I often turn drinks down anyway, so I don’t think anyone will notice, but there are always people speculating. The diet excuse is pretty handy, and will work longer than antibiotics or just “not feeling up to it” since you’ll need an alibi for probably at least a month or two.
Post # 8
I like you am a drinker of wine and everyone would notice if I didn’t. I let them pour me that glass and then had a “sip or two” (basically just put it to my lips) and let my partner drink it.
Nobody noticed in the slightest!
BTW- don’t sweat the wine you drank last weekend. So often people have drinks before they know… so don’t worry about it. You can’t change it anyway.
Let us know when you have a date so we can put you on the Baby List thread 🙂
Post # 9
depending on the person, I was actually more direct…most people didn’t even ask, but if they did I told them we were “trying to start our family” and I had given up alcohol…and if I didn’t want to tell (coworker), I just said I was on a health kick (but had to follow it up w/ my food choices, too, hahaha
Post # 10
Congratulations! Don’t worry about the wine you already drank. My pregnancy book says the first two weeks are nature’s “forgiveness” period, and that normal things won’t hurt the baby.
The not telling only gets harder – I am at month 3 and we’re not going to tell until next week. I’ve known for so long that I’m rolling my eyes like, “Do people still seriously not know this???” but we want to wait until after our sequential screen comes back clean. It’s driving me crazy not to tell!
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for the ideas and support! I’ll try a few of these methods over the next few days and see how it goes 🙂 Now I just want my doctor to call me back!! Poor ob/gyn doctors probably get so many freaked out calls from newly pregnant women 🙂