(Closed) How do you keep the spice in your relationship?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

HAHAHA I so want to hear answers to this, I’ve been married 4 years, ben with him for 5.5, and yea, needless to say the excitement of the new fun relationship is gone, not to mention we have 2 kids, so hopefully someone has some good answers.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Last night when my Fiance got home, he sat on the couch and I attacked him! It was totally unexpected and he loved it! πŸ˜‰ I think just being really random and trying new things helps a lot. I know new things are hard to think of, but it can be simple things like get a new warming lube and give him a massage with it. Or there is that stuff when you blow on it it gets cold, and when you breath (like you would to fog a mirror) it gets warm, and it tastes good! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Have you ever been to an adult shop and bought any of the games? There are a few I’ve been wanting to try, they just seem like they would be fun! Definately something different. That might be an idea πŸ˜‰

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Try to remember the things you first did when you were together, like the random places you would get it on at and stuff, and go back to those places and do it again!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’m not a mom, so I’m not going to pretend to know how to handle this, but the couples I know who have young children keep the spice in their relationship by doing things just with the two of  them. Getting a babysitter and going out or sending the kids to a relative’s for the night. Any reason why you guys couldn’t do this? If you never go out alone, I bet it’ll be pretty special. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

He went out to walk the dog, and when he came back I was doing the dishes in a teddy and high heels.  Mr. O’s eyes nearly bugged out of his head.  I understand that the game changes with kids, but surprises are always good!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We aren’t married but I came up with this idea once and it’s worked now for the last 3 years (we are on our 9th year)

Fantasy jar.  We put in fantasies we think about and put it in the jar.  Then every once and a while we pull one of those out and have a week to “set it up”

It can be as simple as take a bath together to an elaborate plot.

Rules: You can’t say no right away, if you think about it and still don’t feel comfortable after a day of really thinking you can say no and draw again.

I have found out some very interesting things and have had fun.

 

One thing that made us giggle and feel like teenagers was drinking wine off each others body (or sparkling for that special effect) It was messy and hilarious trying to catch the liquid and so not romantic like we thought, but it was so much fun we still giggle when we are drinking wine with people in restaurants. πŸ™‚

Edit: We do sexting a lot too, to get each other riled up during work.  I do it more then he..he usually types back “lol” or “blush”

Sexual scavenger hunt is another one he enjoys. Finding the items around the house (and of course you at the end of it! Usually it’s like shoes here….panties, bra, maybe some toys.  Just make sure youre not making it serious and keep it lighthearted.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Valentine’s Day is on Lunar New Year’s this year, so we have to spend the 14th with his family.  We have White Day in Korea just for women (Valentine’s Day is only for men), so we had agreed to celebrate both days on White Day in March.  However, at the last minute I decided to surprise him, so I bought chocolate, wine, cheese, strawberries and new lingerie for me on Thursday…the surprise made him very happy πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@ TpHoliday, geez you guys are hoott! lol  Great ideas!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I say anticipation builds up the suspense to the moment. Do things you may have never done (or haven’t done in a while). A few examples my SO loves:

-Leaving sexy panties in his work bag, backpack, or anywhere random that he will find them. Preferably while he’s away from you and the home.

– Send him a sexy text picture. And maybe a little sexting to work him up. Coyly tell him something you want to do to him…

-When he parks his car, before he walks in through the door, give him a long hard kiss rather than the usual peck. Tongue gets bonus points!! Even MORE bonus points if you manage to graze his package.

That’s all I got. lol πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hows about being frisky in an unusual place?

That works for us..but we can only do stuff when the kids are not around.  You have to have tactical expertise when it comes to the frisky when you’re parents.  We’re stealth sometimes.  Just very careful.

 

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