(Closed) How do you know?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

For me, the feeling didn’t come when I was wearing the dress.

I knew I had found the one when, as I continued to try on other gowns, I kept comparing them all back to the same dress.  “Oh, I liked the beading on dress X better”, “I wish the train was longer like dress X”, etc.

When I realized I was mentally comparing everything back to the same dress X, I knew that was the dress I was going to wear.

Post # 4
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nope, I never really got that feeling that my dress was “the one and only”. I definitely love it. My mom loves it, that was also a plus. It was mostly in the right price range, another plus. It has the feeling I’m going for for our wedding. But is it the only dress in the world out there that I’d be happy with? Absolutely not. I tried on a bunch of different dresses in different styles and shapes at about 7 salons, so I was sure that I wasn’t missing something that would look fantastic on me and then I just chose. No tears or anything.

My dress is lace so I’m partial to lace dresses, but I also really like the first one on you! It’s simple and really classic!

Post # 5
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I never got the feeling either. I put on my dress during my first dress appt, thought it was very pretty (my Mom adored it), but put it aside because I thought another dress would be ‘the one’. During my 2nd visit I put them both on and realized that it was much more flattering than the ‘dream dress’ and after taking it off and putting it back on several times I decided to just go for it.

I also put on lace dresses like you have, and loved them, but in the end I just really liked the simplicity and lightness of the fabric on my dress (it’s silk and tulle). It just really depends on what look you’re going for and what you feel best in.

Post # 6
5269 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

I just couldn’t see myself in anything else and I had dress regret big time with my other one… I reallllly wanted something simple,lace,kinda sexy and classy and this fit all of what I wanted:)  Poor Fiance was so supportive the whole time thru my dress shanagans!! (sp)  Its kinda like a warm fuzzy feeling I got in this one. I was at peace and now cant wait to see it on white and my sz!

Post # 7
5269 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

I tried on a cpl more at another salon just to be 100000% sure and I felt like I was cheating on it,I kept telling my gf I felt horrible and like a cheater and needed this dress!!

Post # 8
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with FutureKMM, for me it wasn’t some shining moment, it was just that every dress I put on I found myself comparing to the one I eventually got.

Even now when I see a dress I like or don’t like I’ll suddenly realize that the things I’m complimenting or criticizing about it are exactly the ways it is similar or different to mine 🙂 It just had all the qualities that I wanted. Maybe it wasn’t the PERFECT dress, but I’ve never been the type to want or need crazy signs or perfection.

Kinda like my husband, no violins when we first kissed, no lightning from on high whenever he says my name. He may not be the perfect man, but he fits me, makes me happy, and has all the qualities I want in a partner.

Post # 9
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I decided on a dress and I don’t feel like it’s the one and only dress- but I love it and I’m happy with my choice. I feel like I had several great options, and would’ve been happy wearing any of them on my wedding day. In the end I only get one though, so I just had to sit and think it through, narrow it down, and pick one. It was really hard, since I’m so indecisive- I drove my mom insane, haha. I just don’t feel like there was ever THE dress, or that perfect “this is it” feeling for me. But I don’t think there has to be.

In some ways, I don’t mind that I never had that moment, because I don’t have dress regret now- I KNOW I would be happy with other dresses, but I’m happy enough with mine that I’m good with my decision, if that makes sense.

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