(Closed) How Do You Know??

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t know what your budget is, but I shopped at several places (like… 13? haha) and looked at all kinds of designers and dreses online before I settled really, and I’m not even 100%!

Some girls have an “OMG THIS IS IT” moment, and others (like me) just don’t get that feelings. Some are super indecisive, or aren’t terribly concerned about the dress. haha. 

Surf some sites and look at pictures. You might love something there first without even looking, and then can go try it on specifically (or something similar)

Nothing worse dress-related than dress regret, and I’ve seen it a lot on here! I’d hold your horses and give it some time (unless you have no time or cannot afford a bridal shop… but even if you can’t, I’d try the originals on and get a China copy. But I’m personally not a fan of David’s bridal myself)

Go with someone else who won’t rush you! You’re doing what I’d suggest by visiting other places. Make a day out of it and try to hit a few. Better yet, have a list of dresses you KNOW you want to try. and even call ahead and see if the shop has the dress! Eventually you’ll find it ^_^ Even if you don’t have “the moment,” you’ll always be comparing everything to “that one dress.” Sometimes that’s how it works!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

when you start comparing all of the dresses you try on to ONE specific one (your favorite) I gess that’s when you know which one is the top pick.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I visited 14 shops in total. Trouble is, I liked almost all of them. But couldnt fall in love with any of them. Was told by most of my girlfriends who had already got married about finding “the one” and crying over it or going all funny and emotional. I tried on all shapes at first, even if I didn’t like them. Eventually I narrowed down the shape I liked. I then I only looked at that type. After finding about 5 that i still only liked (some more than others) I then took all the bridesmaids and another friend and tried them all on, in one day. They pointed out a few cons with some of the dresses. Which I agreed on, which narrowed it down to 2 for me. I then went back on my own and tried them both on again, with tiara, shoes etc…. As soon as I put a hoop on with one of them, it stood out a mile for me. But still didnt cry, didnt go all funny. It knocked the other one way into the water. And only now I can say that I love my dress and it is “the one”. Havent had any regrets at all. Had a sneeky peek at it a few days ago and got all excited again. It may not be a slap in the face kinda reaction that you get. It might grow on you but you will get there. And when you do, you’ll just think, I dont wanna look anymore, this is it. Although I did get withdrawal symptoms from trying them on. It wasn’t enough to make me actually do it Kiss

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with bump. If you keep comparing other dresses to it, then it is the one. Dress shopping is different for every person too so if you don’t break down in tears thinking “omg this is it!” don’t worry!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I had a hard time. Every shop I went to, there was a “The one” contender but something held me back from committing. In the end, I just decided to just pick one already. My fiance said stop looking, and just look at what I have so far, and pick from there. 🙂 No, crying for sure, but I definitely felt relieved. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think I had the moment either but when asked if I wanted to try on more dresses… was really didn’t! I think that has to be a sign 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think by trying on different dresess, you will figure out the style. Then you can narrow it down.  I’d say there’ll be one that will stick with you/ you will compare everything else with. Then you will know. But as others said, don’t rush the decision. Sounds like you need to go out anddepend a bit more time in shops at your own pace. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t have an OMG moment, but I knew it was my dress when I didn’t want to take it off or try on any other dresses.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bump:  +1

This is what I had done. My mom actually picked out the dress when I had first walked in the store. It was a new Spring 2012 collection in David’s Bridal. Thing is, I didn’t have that crying moment that “this is the one” and I wasn’t really too happy when I left, namely because of their awful lighting. But, as soon as I got rid of the zipper (&added a corset) and saw the dress in different lighting, I knew the dress was perfect for me. 

I had also tried dress shopping at two other stores. Three dresses at one shop, possibly one at the other, and about 10 at David’s Bridal. I kind of liked one at the other shop, but as soon as I got the dress my mom had picked out, I ended up comparing each one to that particular dress. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I never had that moment. I found the pic of my dress in a magazine, thought “Hey, this is cool,” and mail-ordered it without ever trying it on. When I received it I had a bit of dress regret seeing it ON ME, but comparing my picture with the other model pics of dresses, I still very, very rarely see ones that I think are as good or better. I might have that moment when I get down to my goal weight, but if I don’t, that’s ok. Some people never do.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I didn’t have the moment either. I tried on lots of dresses and liked almost all of them. There were very few that I wouldn’t have been happy wearing on my wedding day.and had a hard time narrowing it down to a style which suited me, and wound up getting something way off the way I originally started. I am a boring, plain girl, so seeing any of the gowns on me made me feel special. 

Magazines, movies, Hollywood and even this board hype up the idea of “the dress” – I just kept in mind that the end of the day, the only person that will really remember my dress is me, so I went with the one that I liked the most. But I’d have been happy in any of my top 5. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Tv really plays up that moment, not everyone has it. I think it’s probably pretty rare actually. Keep shopping if you aren’t sure about the dress yet, but if you keep coming back and loving it then I think you’ve proved it to yourself that it is the dress. That’s what I did! 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me, I knew it was the dress when there wasn’t anything about it I wanted to change. The previous dresses I tried were either really unflattering to my figure, or had some small details that I’d want to change (like making the sweetheart neckline a bit deeper, or adding/removing an applique, or adding a belt, or adding straps). When I came out in “the dress” I didn’t make any critiques. And funny enough, it’s pretty much the exact opposite of what I thought I’d end up purchasing.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I knew when there was nothing about my dress I wanted to change. I decided nothing could top it because it just felt perfect for me and I didn’t want to take it off!

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